What to do when what you do isn’t doing you!

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What to do when what you do isn’t doing you!
How to move gently through the space of being “bored” of and questioning your supposed passion.

Damn I hate this space – has that feeling ever fallen like the soft patter of rain around you but at some point starts shifting in energy and begins feeling more like it’s a choking smog noosing your neck? When you start feeling a mixture of bored and hemmed in by your very own business, your very own passion. The one YOU created. The one where you can’t blame your boss or your company because well, essentially, YOU created it all.

Oh, the sweet, annoying irony!

I’m in that love-hate relationship right now. With my energy levels, my enthusiasm, my business model, and my future dwelling. It’s a tad too ironic for me! If you read my second book DITCH YOUR GLITCH you will already know the pain ‘n pleasures I faced when having to repurpose my life 8 years go. And I feel a similar time is dawning. A time to think about a new way to do. DO LIFE.

There are honestly days where all I want is a million bucks (not too greedy but can it be in dollars please!) stashed in an offshore account somewhere (can you tell I DON’T have one of those yet), and the luxury of 6 months with ZERO obligations.

ZERO

OBLIGATIONS

I’m fast realizing I have already packed one hundred and fifty years worth of experiences into my meager 49 (on Monday 24th April) years! Some days I love the work I do – feel blessed, ignited, engaged, tuned in, and on others – well let’s say the love factor is a tad lacking.

I want, no NEED to create a new way – forge a new rhythm. It helps me help you better! Going location free last year helped me create an even more beautiful life where I get to travel and share my energy with more people globally, but at the same time there is a lack of …..yes and what next? Trying to live each day in the moment coupled with where is this all going. I do NOT have all the answers, so I am merely musing about how do I,  YOU and us navigate awkward space when it is upon us?

Do you recognize this – where some days you love the work you do and quite frankly there are also other days you just don’t give a damn. This is true for me and  I know this is possibly gonna make you think – hell girl, how on earth can I trust you enough to work with you to help me shift my life?

Well because I’m busy re-configuring things, just like you are. Finding a way forward without dropping all I have worked so hard for. Does that ring true for you too? I know I need some more drastic changes again to step it all up another notch. It is notches, isn’t it? Sometimes it’s little steps, other times a salsa move here and there, next some massive leaps and then periods of confusion and rest. I feel the older I get simultaneously the “scareder” and the bolder I get. I have to wrestle the fear monster to the ground more often and embrace the bold leaper in me more and more. Our tomorrow isn’t promised, so the question is,”What to do when what you do isn’t doing you?”

When the appeal of having to inspire, cajole, shift someone towards their goals or just listen to someone ever again seems too much to ask in the moment and the thought of a six-month silent meditation retreat way up on a hilltop rates high on the appeal list, then I know it’s time! When I start oscillating like this I know I’m in for a bit of a ride that involves culling, setting new boundaries and calling on some bigass boldness in what I choose to channel my work energy into.

I know what it is – I have just been procrastinating!

That’s also the joy of getting older – I really don’t have to try and do everything and the biggest gift to myself is alignment and doing what matters the most and gives my soul the best kick of energy in return.  Are you at that point yet? I know I’m just messing with my head – because helping and inspiring others in some form just lives in my blood. So I know a few things that I suggest to myself to do when the “What to do when what you do isn’t doing you” mode kicks in…

Get more self-care – massage, reflex, support etc

Practise KINDNESS – for me and YOU

Close out some things draining my energy

Say no to stuff I really don’t want to do

Make different decisions about work I choose to go after for the next 6 months

Be bolder with my fees and simultaneously the value I offer

Sleep more

Juice more

Just let the stuff going on in my head and heart play itself out – sit with it and befriend it for a while

Stop forcing it to shift, ‘cos I know my personal tide will shift – just like yours will.

Like writing blog posts. I last did a newsletter to my database at the end of March, and no matter how often I saw the “task” reminding me to love my database and send a newsletter -I just couldn’t muster up any enthusiasm to write to you. Rude? Mmm, perhaps just honest. Then at the ungodly hour of 1.30 am this morning, with a bit of jet lag still lurking, an energizing call with our professional writer’s mastermind group and the weight of my partner in the hospital, I find myself wide-eyed and willing to write again. LUCKY you ha ha.

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The profundity of asking a question that resonated!

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The profundity of asking a question that resonated with you!
I posted this question on Facebook for both myself and my clients. Having just come through and out of my own inner “Irma” – the hurricane devastating the Carribean and Florida – and witnessing clients all over the world being squished, squashed, and squelched, bobbing up for some beautiful, deep breaths and breathtaking views before being swept under again – I posed this question to my tribe.

“Anyone else out there being a bit sideswiped by life at the moment? Whether your energy levels, financial, feeling disconnected, battling to get clarity on a way forward etc etc etc? And if so how are YOU best riding that uncomfortable wave? Would really love some input from you …”
UPDATE a couple hours later: so I asked this inquiry both for myself and also for many of my clients who are just in a somewhat very transitional space right now – shuffling, stuck, overwhelmed, unsure, then surges of energy and inspiration, followed by doubt, lack of confidence etc etc. Loving ALL your answers here – love my FB family around the globe!!

 

Here is the list that exploded on my timeline – deep sources of inspiration and ideas. Perhaps ONE is for you today.

Piet Filmalter Blendid.co.za …try it out – healthy as ever, taste great, and very easy for lazy/in-a-hurry type of person. And those days where you need to operate on a higher level, Provigil – if you can afford it or get a prescription for it.
Shelley Walters Sleep. Zzz
Sandy Bisschoff Trying to live in the moment and go with the flow, taking each day as it comes. I know that it’s temporary and I’ll have energy and direction again soon. Also reading Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now (for the first time!) which is helping
Marilu Meiring For me it was realizing that by doing things in my own strength, is what quickly exhausts me. I’ve always believed in God but it was a relationship I neglected. Recently I decided to start to invest and prioritized my relationship (and understanding) of God again, I stepped into a world of peace that no matter what, gives me the power to let go and trust that all things work together for good.
Kate Emmerson yes I too need to be connected to spirit – if I am unplugged that’s when all my “drama” starts. Weirdly enough JUICING gets me reconnected, followed by Yoga. It’s like a fast track queue to spirit for me
Marilu Meiring That’s fabulous  What helps me is to know that I’m truly loved by Spirit and that only good things are intended for my life. So even in waiting (or with nothing happening), it is intended for my good and that is a comforting believe to hold on to.
Fran Stephanie Fainman I did the art of living foundation happiness program, where I learned a fabulous Kriya technique and pranayama breath work, which shifts energy very quickly. Sending hugs
Justine Visser Stay in the moment, meditate and remember, it will pass♡ and I promise it does, just another shift in your ascension process
Terry Stallard Just had a “crash n burn” with health..and income…
1)Got off conveyer belt of busy-ness and false stimulants (sugar and caffeine)
2) Taking time to rest and “be still” …definitely re-connect with God
3) Changing lifestyle…healthy diet….
4) Simplifying lifestyle….living within means..keeping out of debt
5) Exploring new ways of doing business..learn, read, learn…and possibly start writing….
Fran Stephanie Fainman I did the art of living foundation happiness program, where I learned a fabulous Kriya technique and pranayama breath work, which shifts energy very quickly. Sending hugs
Justine Visser Maybe this will help;
A sense of being held back. Many of us are feeling the sensation of something holding us back, from doing what we know we should be doing. Or coming up just short no matter how hard we try. Or procrastinating even though we may have a bit more clarity on what we feel we should be doing. We have had some very creative moments, but at large we still have that feeling that we can’t really get going. We don’t seem to be able to build any momentum to actually get started on our new projects and ideas for our soul mission.
That may be because on a physical level we still need to sleep a lot to process all the changes and integrate the light. While from a soul level, something seems to hold us back and prevent us from moving forward with it. We don’t know why but we have the feeling that we are still waiting for something before we go ahead. And we are. We are being asked to work through our core wounds first and to connect with the people around us who we are meant to connect with from all over the planet. We are building ourselves a strong foundation to support us and then propel us forward when the right time comes.
The Universal energies are aligning now for the big shifts to come. All this delaying has the purpose to fully bring us into perfect inner balance. The balance between aloneness and community, between the masculine and the feminine energies within, between being and doing, between giving and receiving. We must trust that we will get the energetic push to move forward, as soon as we are ready. This is the ultimate letting go of control and letting Source work through us and guide us.
Some upcoming dates to take note of:
September 6: Full Moon,
September 21 -25, including:
September 22 – Equinox and September 23 – Cosmic Trigger, Timeline Shift
December 21 – 25, including:
December 21- Solstice and December 23 – Cosmic Trigger, Timeline Shift
Welcome to a new way of living
Come join us: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anewwayofliving/
John Addey Come for tea
Cheryl Reum So many external influences of chaos it has to have an effect. We are one with our Universe. The Slight Edge Jeff Olsen, a delightful reminder of the control of small matters sees huge results. Sleep, 8 hours is my quota. Walk minimum 5000 steps a day. Eat a little something Nice! Chuck the to do lists and complete what can be done in flow. Read” One Thing” and practice it. Gary Keller. And Smile
Craig K. Whitehead I’m with Marilu Meiring here. Throughout the recent storms of life my faith has anchored me in confidence knowing that I am not alone or going through this without guidance. I literally see Him move in my life now that I am giving it more attention and learning to take each day as it comes…resting in the knowledge that God has got this. The creator of Heaven and Earth has me under his wings and firmly in place for his will and destiny for my life. X love ya Kate
Timea Kulcsar The Flow Experience is absolutely my life saver. The community, the tools, the support, the collective energy is what lifts me up. check out my free 7 days of flow email series. There are some amazing tools in there. Lots of people have said it’s created amazing shifts and peace within them. Www.flow-experience.com/7-days-of-flow
Frances Amanda Briggs Side swipes are instant feedback signals to rest, stop, sit, listen before taking action. I tend to approach adversity with curiosity to learn and evolve. I turn to self-care for comfort and clarity. I enjoy massages, journaling, EFT, mindfulness, eating plant and raw with loads of sleep. I hibernate and usually emerge solid and centered afterwards…
Kirsten Kennedy Gratitude for every day. Release the need to drive goals and control. Trust you will get there anyhow, this is an interesting detour worth exploring. Feel the flow, smile…. aaaaand go!
Wendy Ward Kate, thank you putting this inquiry out. It is so easy to become disassociated and disconnected. These are deeply unsettling times. It is hard to BE WITH such despondency, despair and confusion, to sit with the collective grief, to witness division and hatred, to live so close to the edge of insanity. It is easier to numb the pain, distract oneself, remain in denial, etc etc.

For me, and your question has caused me to reflect, these things are helping:
* Being weirdly comfortable not having a frigging clue most of the time what is going on. Taking the next small step into the unknown. Trusting my intuition.
* Coming back to my body, to sensation, again and again. This is helping me get out of my head. It’s like constantly noticing when my attention is focused outward and bringing it back inwards. Being aware of the breath as much as possible throughout the day. What do the sages keep reminding us: we are who we are looking for. Coming home to myself.
* Running the BARS – amazing – helps defrag the brain! For me, it has reduced my distractability in remarkable ways.
* Grounding. Lots of this. Walking bare feet. Being in nature. Literally resting, lying down, being held by the earth. Tree Meditation so wonderful.
* Stillness and silence. Sensing this stillness and silence every time I turn my gaze inwards.
* Being open to or allowing emotion to move through me – actually feeling stuff!
* Not taking things personally (harder said than done).
* Lots of chakra work. Keeping my heart open. Prayer and meditation. Choosing to believe, at the deepest level, that I am fully supported by the Universe. Mind is Resilient.
* Avoiding alcohol and nicotine. Letting go of these old friends almost entirely – body simply can’t handle. Big shifts as a result.
* Trying to take 100% responsibility for what I am thinking and what I am creating. This is the bit I CAN do when all else in world threatens to overwhelm.
* Sweat Lodge – monthly sweat – awesome community.
* Mates like you! Holding space for each other.

Sharon Jansen August, a month where my physicality was compromised. Wake up call ‘re pace. Made a declaration out loud and to others – very liberating in the clarity it brings to do this. Repositioning for the rest of the year, opening up space, creating ease and putting self first.
Wendy Nagel Sending love to you Kate! It feels like there is a lot of shedding going on…be it old patterns to allow for new…or just being caught up in all the external noise…meditate, meditate, meditate…find the stillness inside!  It feels rough, but so worth it…the key is in the letting go
Natalie Uren Today … really feeling the effects of long-term caring for my parents. About to go to yoga
Candice Wasserfall-Somerville Life is hard right now with so many sick friend and family but we have been taking the time to enjoy the small things in life. We sit in the mornings together and enjoy the birds singing while we drink our coffee. We are making memories with concerts ( Jonny Clegg ) and holidays. We are also starting a family Happiness journal to remind us of the good things that have happened during the day/ week. A photo album is also good to capture the good times of the year. It’s great to get rid of stuff, be free and have more time as there is less to clean! Surf that wave 
Lynne Loggie Kate, I so appreciate the public question and the tremendously insightful & helpful responses. Challenged as never before, I’m holding on tightly to authentic awareness, trusting that time and flow will do what it does so well, for those who observe its brilliance. Thank you and continued blessings!
Fiona Aucamp Finding the new phase of our lives daunting. Feel like I am taking more steps back than forward. Feeling disoriented and unstable. Doubts flooding through my mind…..
Adele Green I was processing yesterday, but whatever was there is shed. Feeling fantastic.
Peter du Toit These concepts had the most profound impact on me when I first heard them and may be useful to others too in the context of your question. Enjoy
Jocelyn Broderick Feeling a bit battered physically, energetically, emotionally. So much change. Big decisions. Big shifts. Transition 
Trudie Bartholomew – Translife It is full moon … and recently the end of the Mercury Retrograde
Rivashnee Singh Hey Kate, so there….being swept away. Continuance from our personal messages of late….. Changing life stage whilst going through the whirlwind of personal, emotional, business and life transformation at the same time is all consuming. I have to say your blogs and constant snippets in various forms always refreshing.
Kate Emmerson shew this thread has certainly hit a spot with so many of you. Thanks for your responses have warmed my heart! Spread the post into your worlds so other people you think might need it too can access it from your timeline?
Ursula Barnard Jacobs Sometimes people cannot let the sun shine upon others…some might say it is jealousy…manipulation….spiritual warfare. Regardless, let your light shine. You are probably on the verge of a breakthrough
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Patience OR procrastination huh?

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Every now and then, it is true – that sitting patiently, silently, in a centered and non -pressurized way, simply biding your time is absolutely necessary! A bit like the full moon and the special Eclipse last night.  It can only happen at the EXACT moment it is ripe to happen. Not one second before. You can read more about what this eclipse means for you from an awesome colleague, Cassandra- click here.

And at other times, you are merely conning yourself -yes, YOU ARE CONNING YOURSELF and playing small. And what is called for is a little nudge or even a tougher kickup the b*tt  to get back into action as opposed to wallowing around pretending to be patient. All that matters is that you do the right one at the right time, and don’t con yourself you are being “patient” when actually you are faffing around. “procrastinating”.

Make sense?

There is a HUGE difference between these two scenarios. I think that all too often we think we are being patient with regards to an outcome we want, or a goal we are working towards, when all we are really doing is wasting time and space by not doing anything. We can lull ourselves into the sense of false security that the time is not right, when in actual fact we are conning ourselves and letting ourselves easily off the hook.

We can get VERY good at doing that.

There is wisdom in knowing the difference between the two. Let me keep it simple as to how I see the difference…and see if you recognize where you are right now with regards to some aspect of your life.

 

How do you recognize if you are being patient?

You have a sense of order

You trust that things are right for you

It feels good on the inside

There is a sense of calm

You feel empowered that all is as it should be

You are positive about what is coming

You have taken all possible action within your power for this goal / outcome

You are excited and optimistic

You can sense the divine timing around it all

 

How do you recognize if you are just “messing about wasting time” procrastinating?

You are lethargic and tired

Your head is not focussed on your goal

You have no sense of direction….just ambling around

You have not taken all actions within your control

You expect others to be doing things

You are irritable the goal is not happening

You are blaming people or circumstances about why the goal is not being reached

You are doing things that have no real value; TV, shopping, sleeping unnecessarily

You are bored and apathetic

So, when you think about something that you say you really want and are not getting, just assess where you are at HONESTLY and if you need to actually start taking different action and get your b*tt into gear. If things are just as they should be for right now and everything is in perfect harmony then get on and enjoy the time you have on your hands by doing something else you really enjoy?

You cannot speed something up that is not ready…..so don’t even try.

HERE’S WHAT TO DO NOW IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE FAFFING ABOUT…

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Love, life and little lice on Lesvos

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Of all the things one expects to see in Greece after the sparkling sea and white washed buildings with royal blue shutters, I think that ranked next highest is the plethora of kitty cats you just know in your heart that you will stumbled upon, fall over, give fright too, gaze upon and most definitely capture on your camera as they go about their lazy days. Maybe some sheep, goats, fish and seagulls too, but ALWAYS cats, always lurking close by food, wine, laughter and sunshine. You cannot get away from it. If you don’t like cats, don’t come to Greece – simple. Or bring your allergy pills with your dose of compassion.

 

From a tender age, all of double-figured ten in fact; I was the proud “slave” to a very special lilac point Siamese. Although a few years prior, Dixie had crept into our family by eating leaves outside the back kitchen door to capture my Nan’s attention – but now, this oriental beauty was truly mine. Or I was his to be honest. A birthday present I had begged for, longed for and dreamt about. The name Azure Dee had been tossed into the summer breeze of possible names by my Nan – a painter and artist at heart. She never said something was blue – it was cornflower blue, periwinkle blue, or Azure – just like the Aegean Sea where I am right now. Azure Dee sounded exotic and stage like and I loved it. You had to say it just right too: Aaaayzouer Dee, with a whimsical lilt to your voice.

 

So cats have been capturing my big kitty heart for a few decades now. Most cats in Greek are street cats – a mixture of wise, a tad shaggy and shabby, and full of love, life and the odd little lice (maybe fleas). On this idyllic island of Lesvos, and more particularly in Skala Eresos (where we host our writing retreats and catch a bronze tan) there are some very special cat and dog carers in the community and vets who donate of their time to spay, neuter and care for them. What I discovered on this, my second visit is that most cats are not as “streetish” as I thought, and they seem to adopt specific restaurants as their home, their hangout, and their spot to be. They might not all have names, but they have fresh fish in their tummy.

 

I even met three German-Greek cats – I kid you not they are bilingual ones at Gabi’s and Iannis restaurant. I will venture into spelling them as Langhaaken, Bloemenfloeken and ….mmm the third name escapes me so I better pay them a visit. Then I discovered second year around, that one of my favourites, a black cat, sparkling green eyes, ONE white whisker and a penchant for sleeping on my backpack, I found was actually loved at the delightful Gorgona. When asking “Omar Sharif” their names, he just smiled his naughty smile and said, “names, ag, ask me if I love them. YES. Ask me if I feed them. YES. Even in winter I come down from the village to feed them”. So green eyes doesn’t need a name perhaps. Then my favourite cat I was really missing, as after full a week here I had still not seen it yet, thinking perhaps the winter has claimed his life– only to get a big squeaky hello when daring to venture into Blue Sardine to get my fix of …well you know, sardines. I feel happy to NOT be a vegetarian anymore. Perhaps one day my body will demand it of me again, as it has twice in my life before, but for now, I happily devour freshly caught fish, sustaining the local fishermen and restaurants and adding some fat to those thin bellies of kitties in Lesvos.

 

Do you stop often and long enough to watch?
Watch the world, absorb your surroundings, reflect and see life through the eyes of others, or chat to mewing kitty cats? Or are you too busy running around, scrambling after your life and chasing your goals, or more aptly chasing your tail? What if you were to stop doing what you have always done, and find a new way? For that you need to be brave, willing and supported as you dare to exponentially shift your life. In 2016 I came to the Greek island for one month, and declared 2 months for 2017. And here I am, living that commitment and bringing a group of writers here with me. We have 14 confirmed to join us. Next year I will be running other retreats for healing and weaving your purposeful life too!

 

HOW CAN I BE OF SERVICE TO YOU RIGHT NOW?

As a professional coach, mastermind facilitator, speaker and author I am hell-bent on following my passion and always upping the ante. Daring to be bigger and bolder by letting go of that which no longer serves and being willing to stretch my self-imposed boundaries.

One of the ways I have personally exponentially shifted my life is through the concept of MASTERMINDS. I see they are becoming the “in” thing this year, and I am happy to say I am ahead of the pack. I started facilitating and participating in Mastermind groups way back in 2010, so have many successful groups under my belt, which means people have shifted their lives!

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I will also be hosting ONCE off mastermind days – show up full tilt, with no further obligation other than fulfilling your commitments from the day. You will get input, support, be challenged and have access to 15 other brains, hearts and souls for 6 hours, FACE TO FACE in JHB on the 5th August. (Cape Town will be by demand). I know you will get HUGE take-home value from the day and hey, you might even be begging to join my next mastermind group. It’s as addictive as apparently, tattoos are (which is a complete assumption seeing as I don’t have any  – in case you were ever wondering)

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SCHEME YOUR THEME…

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My questions for you in this week’s BLOG is: “Do you believe that you are a powerful manifesting magnet and are in control of a lot of your day?”

Please STOP and answer this question before reading on…

How did you read and interpret that question? Or is that all a bit way out and woo woo for you? Are you a positive, powerful, manifesting magnet for all your moment by moment experiences, amazing goals and dreams that you aspire to in your life; or are you a negatively powerful, manifesting magnet attracting all the hardship, lessons and “krap” in your life – the debt, anger, bad service, pain, jealousy, retrenchment, divorce etc.?

Or perhaps you shift between these two and are looking to find more “weight” with regards the former?

What you believe about yourself and the world emits a certain vibration or energy out in the world. We are what we think about, feel about, believe, speak about, dream about and live out. Whilst you may not be in control of the world around you and all the crazy happenings, you can be darn sure you are in control of your response to it! So here we are already into February, a Chinese New Year of the Rooster, boldly embracing 2017 and everyone is talking bla bla bla yadda yadda bla bla about changes, shifts, stuff to do, how THIS is my year etc. Lots of positive and negative energy is floating around – the positive is angled towards all the possibility of the year ahead and changes to implement whereas the negative gets vomited out depending on where you live and what’s going down in your country (the Brits are complaining about their inconsiderate transport and early strikes, the Americans about the demise of their country under Trump, the Saffa’s about how can corruption be diminished, JZ removed and rhino poachers strung up by their testicles, the rest of the world about poverty, war, death, famine, children being trafficked and money being stolen left right and centre.

Nothing changes on any given day as that awful struggle abounds at every turn and yet…everything can change in a flash. In an instant!

When it comes to YOU and your life, are you still flying high in the thigh slapping stage, whooping at colleagues in corridors to encourage each other because of course, the gyms are still chokka block at this point right? Yes you can laugh at yourself – we are so daft!

DAFT!

Every year I tell you, every year we do the same thing again and again. Why I purposefully DON’T put out this blog post on the 1st of January is that everyone is still in the thick of the idea that “YES, it will be different this year. I will make my mark and I will impact the world around me.”

Yes, and then?

Over the course of the next couple of weeks, the inevitable “slips” will happen. Those endless lists will be shoved in a drawer and guilt will set in, as you feel overwhelmed by the sheer magnitude of responsibility and tasks coming at you. AGAIN.
Gym 5 times a week- honestly?
Better communicator – how’s that working out for you in those meetings huh?
And unanimously on top of that dratted list every year is –
Make more money
Get organized
Spend more time with kids
Get fitter, lose 5 kgs or quit smoking.

Ah yes, and don’t forget sober January. How did that post work non- drink, clean month really work for you?
Or some version of those topics, so I bet some of them made it to YOUR list too.

So HOW do you tap into this idea of being a positive manifesting magnet that can enhance and uplift your 2017?

One of the things I share in my second book “DITCH YOUR GLITCH” is the power of VISION BOARDS. I share my own personal experience with them and how they have honestly helped me change my life, some client’s experiences of them and all the underlying information about WHY they work so brilliantly to keep you motivated, inspired and on track each year, especially if you keep them active (I put mine on my cell phone as a screensaver). They actively tap into the RAS- Reticular Activating System to help feed images and unconsciously conscious messages to your brain, ensuring you pay better attention, stay alert to what you say you want and make you more mindful. They are magic helpers on the path of being a positive manifesting magnet.

But the sad reality is that usually vision boards, goals, dreams and those commitments you have the best of intentions of fulfilling get shoved to the back burner, until you have learned to exercise your manifesting “muscle” over time.

And of course one of your “GLITCHES” (there are 5 I speak about in my book) – will usually win the day, trip you up and keep you playing small, no matter how kickass your vision board is at the start of the year. GLITCHES like being right, and the LOVE running and ruining our lives.

 

So all your aspirations will go running out the door at full tilt when you get even the slightest whiff of:

Overwhelm

Pressure from work deadlines looming close by

Remarks from family and friends to “stop being so silly”

Fear when your inner voice tells you can’t do what you want to

Unworthiness rearing its ugly head when you believe you are not worthy of achieving it all this year

Distraction yelling at you that something else other than your dreams are more vital right now

Drama from your life or others around you

 

How are you going to rise above all the external conflicts, demands and obligations and let this be the year that you really DO make some impactful and lasting changes in a specific area of your life? If you haven’t already heard about it, 2017 is a bigger, fresher start energetically. If you add up the 2+0+1+7 = 10, which = 1. So 2017 is a #1 year of the next 9-year cycle, meaning there is an underlying energy you can tap into that will help you start afresh again. Can you somehow tap into the significance of this rhythm for your life?

Are you asking yourself the right questions about the next 9 year cycle, so that this year is the first step on that cycle – it makes it a little more note-worthy doesn’t it? I know I am paying a little more attention to this year and what seeds I sow, knowing the impact is bigger than usual.

 

The reality is that you are a manifesting magnet, whether you realize it consciously or not. The quality of your self-talk, self esteem and self-belief will determine the positive or negative quality of your life. You are much more in control of your world than you realize! So my challenge to you is that if you don’t like what you have got in your world and in your life, you need to first start thinking, being, doing, acting, speaking and then aligning yourself differently.

How do you know what you want – you look at what you have GOT!!!  EEEECK – At the deepest of sub conscious levels. I dare you to OWN THAT as an idea for a while and see what happens to your outlook on what you can shift.

If I can offer some advice for this time of year, I would suggest you pair it down to something even simpler than a vision board, or your myriad of goals/resolutions. Bring it down to ONE CONCEPT. I talk about the THEME, or ESSENCE of your year going forward. More than a goal, this is like an umbrella that will color and tint the way you go about your year ahead.

It can be a single word, 3 words, a sentence. Perhaps like the title of a book.

It enables you to have a YES/NO way to track everything you do, everything you say YES to, every decision you make, every action step.

You can come back to this ONE SIMPLE ESSENCE so that every single time you make ANY decision you can pitch it against your ESSENCE and evaluate “will this help me live this essence this year”?

 

Every year I have an ESSENCE that gets plotted out on a vision board. Some of mine have been…

Aligned Freedom

POWER

Courageous shifts – big and small

The key to life is being you.

Global nomad – yes the year I manifested 8 overseas trips (none of which were booked at the start of that year when I created that theme!)

Reaping exponential rewards on my decadent odyssey – 2016 that was one of my best LOCATION FREE years ever, after packing up my home and travelling the world for work and life, making plans to spend more time in the USA.

 

For me 2017 is my year of “FOUNDATIONS TO FLY” – unpacked a bit more that means “Profoundly Stable foundations to fly courageously and luxuriously high”. I am so excited about how I am creating this year ahead and put a lot of work into it over December and January as I closed out my year with mindful purpose to gain traction for the year ahead! I have to do some necessary work on my business foundations again, reworking and rewiring some of how I offer services, yet I am hell bent on living with courage and offering everything up as bigger and bolder and I am ready for my travel to be a notch more luxurious. Everything I do is geared around this over-riding ESSENCE now.

 

Some clients themes have included:

Organized simplicity

Abundance abounds

Compassionate Care – self and others

Empathy, enthusiasm and energy

Passion and profit

BOLD ‘n brave
My year of “ME”

YES!

Fearless boundaries

Getting Clean – inside and out

Space

Show up

Go big or go home

Letting go – making space

New beginnings

Purposeful prosper

And the list goes on and on …

 

So now it’s your turn. Before you consider umpteen new goals, daft resolutions, busy vision boards or endless tasks to tick off –find a simple yet powerful concept to drive your decisions all year. A barometer to keep you on track, on purpose and on point. Do not underestimate the impact of a few simple words chosen with thoughtful care. Take some time to discover the simple ESSENCE of your year ahead.

To get more support on making some permanent shifts in line with your essence, be sure to grab a copy of my book DITCH YOUR GLITCH

 

 

THE SASSY SYNCHRONISTIC STUFF OF SIMPLY SHOWING UP

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THE SASSY SYNCHRONISTIC STUFF OF SIMPLY SHOWING UP
#Minimalist meanderings

Recently in the quaint country of Romania for some work, I experienced some (well SEVERAL) sassy synchronistic stuff unfold as I allowed the special energy of this beautiful city take over for a while. I was staying in a flash 5 star hotel as a guest of my host in the country (Sassy #1 – having been delightfully upgraded from an already wonderful 4 star hotel as upon checking in they were renovating that back part of the hotel and a band had extended their stay, so they had no room at that Inn and so they “moved me” to the ooh la la Radisson on the front) Ooh I love that I believe in unexpected delights!

Sassy #2 – there were strelitzias basking on the new concierge’s desk at check in. Hello South Africa. The Radisson was also directly opposite the main concert hall near the old walled city, and 2 days later I discovered there was a special concert on THAT evening. How?

I had been gifted a three-hour private walking and driving tour of the city earlier by my hosts, and we happened to go inside the concert hall to view it’s historical magnificence when we stumbled across some deeply inspirational choral practice whilst looking up at the domed ceilings with awe. Sassy #3 – My amazing tour guide mentioned there was a very special concert on that evening – nudge nudge wink wink.

Sassy #4 – we then landed up in front of the “palace” that was built under Communist rule, now the seat of government. My host proclaimed, that although being Romanian she had never yet been inside or had the tour, and that sadly you need to submit your passport at least 24 hours before in order to get inside. We were marveling at it from the parking lot. Then she gets a twinkle in her eye and says- shall we try and get in? She made a phone call to a friend who works inside, and even though he WASN’T working that particular day he said – go to the entrance and they will allow you to visit today! My host and guide both decided I was their lucky charm, making everything so easy and effortless.

I started feeling a bit lousy in the afternoon after returning from the tour, and had taken myself off to bed for an afternoon nap, contemplating the concert that night. 35 minutes before the start of the concert, I knew I would regret not trying to get a ticket, so I dragged myself out of bed again, splashed my face and added a dash of lipstick, walked across to the “late sales” booth at the side, and stood in a long queue.

Mmmm bed seemed very appealing again. Waiting, slowly.

I saw a very well dressed elderly gentleman standing near the queue for the 15 minutes I was there and kept wondering what he was doing? He wasn’t talking to anyone, but kept trying to motion to them. I kinda felt sorry for him. As I got to the front of the kiosk, they told me they only accepted CASH> >>>aaaargh I only had my card.
Cash machine here? No!
Tickets were 75 leu and I had only 40 leu cash on me. Damn. Maybe the other Hotel across the road could convert my foreign money, as I knew my own hotel didn’t do that. In Romania what is weird is that all the hotels only work in Euro’s, as it’s now part of the EU, yet all the local shops and establishment still use Romanian Leu, the original, local currency. It’s a tad confusing.

That Hotel also had no local money for me and the banks had closed ten minutes ago.

Eventually after 10 minutes – with the show now starting in ten minutes, I found a cash machine, realizing it would dispense in local currency. DUH! Now, a little weird travel lesson from South Africa. We are considered a slightly “dodgy” country, you know because we look and sound just like Nigeria where most of the money laundering in the world happens. Every time I leave SA I spend about an hour on the phone calling my two banks and getting all my business and credit cards cleared for the countries of my travel, otherwise any foreign transactions might be deemed fraudulent transactions. And even after doing that time-consuming clearance, they can still decline transactions when I’m overseas. So I have multiple cards with multiple options so as not to get caught out.

It took me three cards to be able to draw cash from THIS Romanian machine!

Right – dash back, sweating and huffing to the queue, now with less than 5 minutes till show time. Old man still there. Sassy #5 – He shows me a ticket and says “you for one?” He seems to “imply” he has a ticket (in very broken English and of course I am 200% fluent in Romanian) so I go to the kiosk lady and get her to verify the ticket is indeed valid as there was no date on it (that’s how their special season tickets work apparently) and he says he wants only 60 leu for it. B for bargain, as the tickets were  originally 75 leu.

“COME” he urges, “we late”.

As we are walking and running up the stairs he manages to convey to me that his wife is home and ill and this is her season ticket – pretty good communication hey? We walk into this uppermost concert room and I gasp. OMG – vast, bold, exquisite and ornate. Everyone dressed to the nines and I am transported to ancient Eastern European grandeur.

Sassy #6 – He proceeds to walk to the FRONT ROW. I am front and centre and can hear the musicians breathe as they are warming up. In and out, deep and crisp and even. And the faint squeak the violin string makes before the haunting sound is emitted across the air. I can reach out and touch the conductor as he sashays to the front and lifts his baton!

I can see him twitch and sweat beads form on his brow.

Front row tickets for simply BEING in a city on a night and being willing to show up. I am in awe of the magic of life.

Too often we try and PRE control and PRE book. I believe there is a place for that, but I do love the magic of being in the moment and letting life unfold! FRONT ROW SEATS UNFOLDS! Sassy #7 -The next morning as I head outside to my taxi back to the airport to leave for Greece to run a writing retreat, I see the music conductor sitting in the hotel lobby. Already half way through the revolving door, I make a split second decision to do the full 360 degree circle and get out where I started. I walked up to him, apologized for interrupting his Sunday morning with his female companion, shook his hand and said how marvelous it was that I had enjoyed the privilege of being in the front row the night before. “I remember you, madam, thank you” he said, smiling and eyes twinkling.

And that is how I love to travel.

Do you need to start letting sassy magic unfold in YOUR life? Perhaps I can share some of my methods with you over the next few months?

Last week, I had 90 minutes to “kill” before meeting a dear friend for a mutually soulful chat and had gone early to make sure I was in the right place. So literally killing time, wondering where to go to I was just meandering along in my Russian hat. This “random” guy, bit older than me, Kevin to be precise, stop and says, “I know this is weird but I have (Sassy #8) “time to kill” before making my way to my theatre show tonight with friends and may I buy you a cup of coffee. You look really interesting”. I shrieked with laughter, looked a little shocked and amused at the same time and promptly tuned into my spirit and said yes. I KNOW some of you are reading this with many many “WTF is wrong with you Kate!!!” going round in your head.

As we sat and chatted and told each other a bit about ourselves, (and please let me re-iterate with zero weirdness or innuendos or sexual undertones whatsoever) I was telling him about my new book being released this year helping clients to get really clear on the complex emotional issues of detaching emotionally from a home before putting in on the market to sell, and to support people to sell, pack and move with ease. He just looks at me and smiles – he is about to sell his house and it’s a potentially complicated story with the house and…..Sassy #9 he ALSO works for a well-known estate agent in his town. Now – here’s the rub – I am I the process of looking for potential “brand partners” in the whole property industry, alongside “guinea pigs” to keep working with the material to give me feedback on how it all works for them. Social proof if you like. So this sassy just tickled me pink.

And then there was today catching a bus on a sad, dreary day from Rugby – saying goodbye to my mum on the side of the road just as the light was just coming u, I start chatting the the guy waiting for the bus with me, also headed to Heathrow Airport. Sitting across the aisle, we simply chat about where we are headed and why, and spend the next two hours chatting about work, life, beauty therapy, making brave bold choices in life and business and following our dreams. He landed up Sassy #10 – lugging my suitcase between the buses whilst we waited for an hour and he bought me a mug of tea and became my companion for a while on the road. We even landed up looking at his new brand logos for his business.

Yep, I speak to strangers and I let my trust in people, the world and what we are all doing here seep into my soul at every turn. It’s all to easy to shut off, shut down and shut up. How is that working for YOU?

 

Call me crazy, call me naïve, call me mad. Or worse. I call it “THE SASSY SYNCHRONISTIC STUFF OF SIMPLY SHOWING UP”. And I mean showing up with trust, openness, love, compassion and your wits about you at every turn. Let life and people surprise the hell out of you, shock you and win you over. Yes, it’s a bit of a dare!

 

WANT TO FIND YOUR OWN VERSION OF SASSY?

I am so passionate about this concept of LIVING IN THE MOMENT and being in love with your real self (as in deeply proud of who you are and how you live your life) and for me it all starts with HONESTY.

The starting point is simply to TAKE STOCK in all 8 areas of life, so that you get clear on WHERE YOU are and what is and isn’t working for you.

I have created an entire video series – FREE of charge to support you to get started. Click here to  QUICK SHIFT 1 THING using the 4  G-SPOTS of TRANSFORMATION
If I can help you do that as smartly as possible, then you will have some starting points to let yourself meander and BE. And that is good for ALL of us. My mission is to help you find your own SASSY and SHIFT!

When you sign up, you will need to confirm your e-mail address, and get stuck into the first video with pen and paper. Then I will send you 2 more videos.

These 3 live videos will cover the 4 G spots of Transformation – Grips, Gap, Grow and Guts.

TAKING STOCK in all 8 areas will help you figure in which 1 area YOU need to shift immediately.

Then further down the line you will be invited to “The Cappuccino Challenge” -another surefire way to stay HONEST with YOURSELF. Courageous acts of self-love every day for 30 days. Loved by THOUSANDS of CLIENTS that have transformed their lives permanently in just 20 minutes a day  –  Just so you know what’s in store for you as you join my “tribe” ok?

LET’S GET YOU STARTED RIGHT AWAY

With lightness,

Just because you can’t see it #Lessons from London

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Just because you can’t see it over there…does it honestly mean it doesn’t really exist?

Or perhaps it could signify that simply, you cannot see it?

What if someone else annoyingly can?

What if someone perhaps a little closer to it can?

Or with a different, slightly skewed perspective on life?

A slightly different angle?

Or with different viewing equipment?

 

We often make something absolute, simply because we cannot see it for ourselves. How arrogant of us darn it!

And what if it’s simply a little mystical mist in the air begging you to walk closer to see what might be revealed as you inch closer? I beg you to stop expecting everything to be so bloomin’ obvious. Learn to follow your heart, your nose, your instinct, a smidgen of trust and a total delight in being. Simply insatiably and incurably curious.

Yes, insatiably, incurably curious.

I have a favourite, delicious past time that has been with me my whole life. Well since I was 8 little years old and flew on a plane on my own, unaccompanied. Yep, I’m an intrepid, gypsey-like traveller. Whilst I often travel with a partner, friends or am meeting clients in foreign countries for work, I also travel a lot on my own and REVEL in days I can spend meandering and musing on my own. Put me in a city, town or the middle of nowhere and I am simply happy to explore.

Meander slowly even if it looks like I’m walking fast.

I usually wake up, do some yoga at home (well let’s not pretend THAT happens every day, but mostly I do, to stretch the ol’ bones) then I make it a priority to find freshly brewed coffee…and then I’m off.

Where to?

If I have just two days in a city, most likely I will do the hop-on-hop-off tour bus, IF that exists there, to get a big picture perspective. BUT, I also find it a little stressful in terms of then trying to fit in EVERYTHING on that darn bus route and animated map glaring at me. Ugh. What I wholeheartedly love more is just to BE in a place. No agenda, definitely with no prescriptive-whilst-attempting-to-be-useful guidebook, and just a backpack filled with some weather appropriate protective gear (either sunscreen in summer or a brollie in winter) and GO.

Yep just go.

I let my heart dictate left or right, stop or go. I find true MAGIC that way. Being in the moment, letting the city talk and whisper it’s longings into my heart. Being present and free, awake and alert. Incurably curious about where a road may lead. Or not.

I had a two-week kitty and houseit in the heart of London recently, and had a lot of time to myself, but this day was special –  just meandering and mooching around on a cold day with gentle fog lurking everywhere. Mystical and magical, hiding things from view. I walked across a bridge for the very first time and in my heart I knew the Houses of Parliament and Big Ben were meant to be there, right in front of me. I took a picture. Really? Just some grey, swirly mist today!

What if I believe and keep going?

Sometimes we have to know the end picture, and just take ONE step in the direction of our destination. I really wanted a picture of Big Ben from the opposite side of Westminster Bridge, to send to my partner. Why? When we decorated his home in South Africa together after he had revamped it, I sourced him three special photographs to buy that were of three amazing bridges across the world, all in warm Sepia tones. Golden Gate, Brooklyn, and Westminster. At the time we were already booked to visit San Francisco, and naturally Golden Gate was one of the bridges we drove across twice – admiring the “international orange” colour of this renowned landmark. We then landed up bicycling across the Brooklyn New York one together – creating for me one of my all-time favourite NY memories. And so the London one is left for us. Whilst we have both seen it on our own, we have never seen or walked across it TOGETHER. I wanted to send him a pic to say …thinking of you darling and I cannot wait to come to this city together. But the bloody bridge was NOT there. Arrrrrgh

Walk

Walk

Walk

Huff

Puff

OOh look, a little cafe and some … mmm….yes they are birds I think

Trust

Walk

Huff

Puff and try to stay warm

Mmmm, what’s that?

It was getting cold, colder, coldest on this foggy and windy day, I had to stop and put a fourth layer on to stay warm – but as I took each step, I got one step closer and it all got a LITTLE clearer. Never crystal clear, but I eventually got to the spot to take my pic. BIG GRIN!

 

So you have stuck my story out to this point. So what??

Sometimes, you know something is there even when you can’t see it.

Trust your heart, your spirit and your 6th sense.

You don’t need maps, or guides.

Just walk, one foot in front of the other and let the path unfold in front of you.

So often we want to know it all before we set out. How boring.

Business is like that too.

You cannot know all the bits, all the answers, all the steps.

You know where you are and you know the next step.

That’s all you need, really.

 

Have fun walking the misty, foggy streets of your life as you take steps to make magic this year.

 

NEED SOME MORE HELP TO GET STARTED WITH THIS STUFF?

YOU CAN INSTANTLY IMPROVE YOUR LEVEL OF SELF-LOVE

Yup, RIGHT NOW!

I am so passionate about this concept of LIVING IN THE MOMENT and being in love with your real self (as in deeply proud of who you are and how you live your life) and for me it all starts with being HONEST.

The starting points is simply to TAKE STOCK in all 8 areas of life, so that you get clear on WHERE YOU are and what is and isn’t working for you.

I have created an entire video series – FREE of charge to support you to get started. Click here to  QUICK SHIFT 1 THING using the 4  G-SPOTS of TRANSFORMATION
If I can help you do that as smartly as possible, then you will have some starting points to let yourself meander and BE. And that is good for ALL of us. My mission is to help you SHIFT!

When you sign up, you will need to confirm your e-mail address, and get stuck into the first video with pen and paper. Then I will send you 2 more videos.

These 3 live videos will cover the 4 G spots of Transformation – Grips, Gap, Grow and Guts.

TAKING STOCK in all 8 areas will help you figure in which 1 area YOU need to shift immediately.

Then further down the line you will be invited to my other fabulous programme called The Cappuccino Challenge. Another surefire way to stay HONEST with YOURSELF. Courageous acts of self-love every day for 30 days. Loved by THOUSANDS of CLIENTS that have transformed their lives permanently in just 20 minutes a day  –  Just so you know what’s in store for you as you join my “tribe” ok?

LET’S GET YOU STARTED RIGHT AWAY

With lightness,

 

 

CLOSE OUT STRONG! Quit your flapping and ride your thermals…

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“Quit your flapping and ride your thermals.”
D. Jones

Are you are falling prey to this time of year, the ever present negative energy and perhaps even “counting sleeps and sheeps” – not in an excited, overjoyed, childlike waiting for Santa and presents kind of way – but the kind counting diminishing sleeps till you FINALLY take your last commute to the office, or simply say aaaargh THANK GOODNESS this awful year is finally over. I can kick it to touch, desperately hoping never to have a repeat performance?Perhaps your attention is wrapped up in all the disgusts and none of the delights?  Too many people are getting pulled down by others around them, or, (maybe you are the one doing it) buying into the group energy  ….moan moan moan…. I’m tired, too busy, overwhelmed bla bla bladi bla.

What a true pity that is! Really!

But what if you actually want to run at 100 Km, and know it’s possible but you are being stopped by everyone else saying you can only run at 40 km an hour. Because, you know, it’s that time of year and everyone is winding down. Seriously? This is your life. EACH DAY MATTERS! Each thermal you can ride maters. Each kilometre you can run, matters. YOU MATTER!

cheeta-40

 

Sure, I get that every year has it’s ups and down, I’m IN that pot with you every year. Some years kick you about more than others, some years are filled with delight and I have learned it’s about being OK with that, in fact embracing it! I honestly believe each year has an element of all facets, from drab to fab scattered through the year. Life is about growth, challenge, expanding and learning. It’s not about comfort zones and staying small is it?
Whilst that feels wooly, warm and cozy, it’s not who we are intrinsically. Yet we resist so vehemently when our life wants us to expand. Duh!

And to go one step further – 2016 is a 9 year. Meaning it’s the end of a massive cycle of completion. GOT IT? If you add the numbers together 2016 =9. Therefore 2017 will be a 1 – fresh start, new beginnings. Think about it at it’s most simple level to just greet the concept with a hello.
A 9 ends the current numerical cycle we are in. Whilst there are also 7 -year cycles that operate at another level, there is a very predominant “decade” cycle, which is why we are so obsessed with celebrating the 20/30/40/50/60 etc birthdays.  So whilst the year is completing at one level as we do every year, even deeper than that we are completing a 9 YEAR CYCLE this year.

WOWSER! Just think about YOUR last 9 years. I bet you there is some magic there to remember and maybe some monsters too :)

But when we are dead tired, dead bored, and just stuck in the “ENOUGH ALREADY” zone, it’s almost darn near impossible to stop and harness the past 12 months with creativity and insight. Don’t let this pivotal and precious time of year get away from you untapped! And certainly don’t let the decade beat you down!

Many people reaching out to me are exhibiting one of the following modes: overwhelm, panic, where the heck has the year gone, adrenal burnout, or more often the “I just can’t be as$ed anymore” mode – either jarringly gritting your teeth till you go away and know you can FINALLY switch off and chill to a calmer routine or sign off that big final project for the year as you toss some thank you gifts at clients and dash out the door?

There is a different way.

At some point before 31st December, I set time aside (you will benefit most from about an hour to do it consciously), pour a glass of wine and do a very precious CLOSE OUT STRONG PROCESS to help me wander back over the past 12 months to create a deep awareness of the year gone by. I also do a much, much deeper process at least a month before the end of the year to ensure I‘m keeping my eye on the ball to end on a high.  Think of it as a simultaneous pat on the back and a wee kick up the proverbial to “land” everything.

WANT TO JUMP IN RIGHT NOW?
Here is a condensed version for you to use the following 3 questions to do a powerful 30- minute CLOSE OUT to 2016. Sit with some pen and paper and allow yourself to wander back through the entire year, looking for the high, the low and the let go…

  1. What are you most PROUD OF AND WHY?
  2. What was your #1 CHALLENGE you faced – how can you leverage what you learn from it?
  3. What ONE THING can you leave behind and let go of?

ARE YOU READY TO REALLY UP THE ANTE AND CLOSE OUT STRONG?
Yup, RIGHT NOW!  CLICK HERE 

I am so passionate about this concept of completing the year with mindfulness and elegantly putting it to bed, that I have listened to my clients and created a 5-day process – which in reality takes you only 5 hours, just an HOUR A DAY. Don’t drag 2016 into the new year with you!

 5- DAYS TO CLOSE OUT STRONG.

STEP IN and Reflect on your year
STEP UP by Committing  to Complete
HARNESS the year’s challenges with wisdom with hindsight
Acknowledge USHERS
Put the year elegantly to bed and LET GO
STEP OUT into 2017 with clarity and a “theme”
 

YES, KATE I WANT TO CLOSE OUT STRONG!

CLICK HERE

 

CLOSE OUT STRONG and end your year PROUD AND TALL – not wiped out and small!

READ MORE HERE and read what others say about CLOSE OUT STRONG so you feel excited to join the process and make THIS year end different and powerful.

Where you start is not as important as where you finish!

Zig Ziglar

Holiday guests arriving, house a mess causing you stress?

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I hear this all the time: “I have holiday guests coming and my house is a total mess, where do I start? PLEASE HELP ME KATE!!!

The holidays cause everyone to go into overwhelm and panic mode. It is supposed to be the happiest time of the year filled with visions of sugar plums and presents under the trees or latkes and jelly donuts. Whatever your tradition if you are the host for the festivities you are filled with other people’s expectations only exceeded by your own. You want everything to be perfect. We can break it down into digestible bites.
You can read the FULL BLOG POST over on my USA publishers website – and be sure to let your international friends know they can read it too. CLICK HERE 

 

5 TIPS to TOP UP YOUR “VIP RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF”!

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When life gets too busy, overwhelming and a tad out of hand, it can be useful to resort to proven strategies to help you create a healthier, kinder relationship with yourself. And let’s face it, it all starts there! 

TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE – I reveal 5 simple tips you can effectively implement to improve your relationship with the #1 in your life – YOU. When you are truly feeling empowered and nourished, you will then have a power-packed impact on others around you. Stop thinking it’s selfish to improve your VIP relationship with YOURSELF.

 

  1. START SMALL

One of the biggest traps people fall headlong into is to make unrealistic demands on how they are going to change everything all at once – going GUN HO – sound familiar? Then you usually land up changing nothing and are left bereft of your goals and feeling far worse off. But everyone, including you, CAN START SMALL. Think about a 10% improvement in some area of your life; after you have achieved that, you can start on the next aspect. One small chunk at a time.

HOW TO: What 1 (ONE) thing can you commit to shifting today and how will you shift it? Start small to end tall. Hit reply and tell me or leave a comment below.

 

  1. STOP WORRYING ABOUT OTHERS’ OPINIONS

What other people think about you in NONE of your business. WHAT?!! Yes how often is everything you do, think, or feel based on how others will approve or disapprove of you? Your life is meant to be one of joy and reaching for what makes you happy. If you don’t know, find out. Every time you put another’s needs ahead of your own for the wrong reasons, and drop yourself off your own priority list, you are in effect making their needs more important than your own. How will you ever achieve happiness? You can continue to think it is the most generous thing (giving of yourself for the betterment of others), which it absolutely IS, PROVIDED it is NOT at the expense of yourself. Be more in control of what you need to do within your own space, take charge of your issues and challenges and stop “vomiting” your stuff into other people’s space. BE the best version of yourself so that you are more available to others.

HOW TO: For the next 5 days, when you wake up in the morning, your challenge is to do something for YOURSELF first. Perhaps a cup of tea on your own before you wake up the rest of the house, ten minutes writing in your journal, a walk etc. You can come back to everyone else AFTER you have taken care of YOU.

 

  1. QUIT THINKING “EITHER / OR” and go for “AND”

We have been taught it is one or the other. Really? Who says? This concept boils down to self-belief and the idea that you can have what you choose in the way that you want it. Most of us have been brought up to make choices, and choices have consequences. Yet if you have the courageous conversations with yourself and others about what is really important to you, then you may just be able to find a way forward that incorporates BOTH, or several options, the commonly known WIN-WIN. I prefer to think of it as AND! It is a mindset of how you view the world and what you expect you deserve. It also links to point 2 – it is possible to put yourself on your priority list AND thereby still be able to help others too! Ponder that for a moment.

 

HOW TO: every time you hear yourself saying “OR”, reframe the sentence or request to use “AND”. Make it a game to see how often you can do it and enlist the help of someone at home or the office to challenge you.

 

4.TRUST YOUR GUT

I cannot emphasize this enough. Your instincts will always give you the right answer and will show you the orange warning lights. Sure, your nasty, mean and self-deprecating nagging voice will try its best to sabotage you and turn you against yourself. It is simply your little voice’s job to make you doubt yourself, and yet, your spirit ultimately demands that you listen to your gut. Make a decision based on your gut, find reasons to support it and MOVE ON! Think back to any things that “went wrong” and ask yourself honestly if you always knew at the start but simply never listened. This links to point 2 again – so often we are simply scared to trust ourselves and will abdicate to others’ rather than make any waves.

HOW TO: A bit of a weird one to try – The moment you hear your nagging voice kick in, literally say to it – “thank you for your input but I’m going with my gut on this one just for now, thank you”. Try it J

 

  1. BE ACCOUNTABLE

If you are honest with yourself, then you know whether you are disciplined and self-reliable in pursuing your goals or if you need some help. Even the most successful people that you know achieve massive results because they have support systems and are accountable for the right reasons. Get a support group, a disciplined friend, join a course, and have a “go – to” person to help you stay on track. Quit trying to do it on your own then beating yourself up ‘cos you feel like a failure.

HOW TO: Call or mail someone today to let them know what you are working on and that you wish to enlist their help in achieving your weekly deliverables.

 

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With lightness,

Kate