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What are YOU sincerely proud of today?

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Do you breathe your very essence and power into your life every day?

Or do you tend to play small and tone it all down?

Why is it that we are still sometimes too shy to share the great things in our life? All that stuff we are taught when little about keeping your light under a bushel and not blowing your own trumpet…..I think that ultimately we do ourselves an injustice. So, today I am challenging you to actually stand up and be proud of who you are and what you are achieving in your life, no matter how small or big it appears externally. I have been sharing my secrets lately about radical shifts, tough times etc, so what about sharing some of the groovy stuff I am experiencing too?

Are you able to acknowledge something awesome in your life today that you are so proud of it could burst out of you if you let the world to see? It can be something small that is just for your own self-esteem – knowing that you got through today, or being proud that you are sticking to your exercise routine. Or that you actually remembered to call your friend on a day you know mattered to them. It could be an outcome at work that leaves you feeling proud and puffing out your tailfeathers – perhaps something a colleague did in passing this morning that reminded you how awesome you are?

Or maybe it’s a real biggie that you have been feeling shy to share with others – will they be jealous, not be happy for you or do you battle to take the credit? Close your eyes for a moment and let yourself feel the energy of being truly proud of yourself. Not in an overly egotistical way, but more of in an “I am prepared to acknowledge this because it makes me feel honestly great” kind of way.

 

PRACTICAL CHALLENGE RIGHT NOW!
Find something that you are willing to acknowledge and tell 5 people today.

Mmm yes 5!

My masterminders have to do that every two weeks when we meet- start off by sharing something they feel is a success! It builds self-worth and keeps the positive energy flowing especially when things feel a little rocky or tough! Yes 2017, we know what you have thrown at us!

What is something that YOU are proud of accomplishing in your life right now? See if this can stretch your comfort zone just a bit. You may feel awkward, you may feel shy, you may feel like an egotistical and arrogant person…but what if you also feel the light that shines inside you as you share that with another human. Let yourself be seen for whom you really are today……go on!

I am proud of…..!!!

I’d like to share what I am currently proud of with you:  I am so proud that I managed to stick out 3 months in the USA.
Even though it has been my dream for the past 3 years to go for an extended 3 month visit to see how much I really love it, I literally went there with NO plans, no specific work lined up in the USA, no conferences to attend or movies to appear in, Premieres to walk the red carpet at or friends birthday’s to celebrate as per every other visit thus far. Of course I always have my location free lifestyle and all my wonderful regular online courses, writers and masterminders. But that was it. Three months stretched out ahead of me – in dollars!

I went essentially to SHOW UP for my third book SHIFT YOUR HOME as I have always had a dream about collaborating in the USA. In the first two weeks I pretty much cried every day, slept ten hours, wondered what the HELL I was doing and just felt so so very alone, small and helpless. Little and pathetic! YEP! So I resorted to my own advice that I dish out and made myself do just ONE thing every day towards finding magic for my third book, and slowly it started unfurling when I got out of my own way! I started doing my yoga at a local studio in San Rafael, hung out at Starbucks to work and guzzle coffee, writing gratitudes and keeping my eye on the bigger dream.  After all, I didn’t want to waste a three-month trip.

SO after wallowing a bit in self created dross, I picked myself up with help from my support teams (my mastermind group, friends, partner and a massive release exercise!) and literally started being as cheeky as all hell and asking people for help to meet people that would be connected to the realty / real estate industry to collaborate with my new book. VOILA- I managed to collide with someone very special and soon we will be releasing the new updated version and online course!

 

SO BACK TO YOU!!
WHAT ARE YOU SINCERELY PROUD OF?
My challenge to you is that you chat to 5 (FIVE) people about what is happening in your life that you are proud of today. Yes, I mean 5!

 

And if you really want to UP THE ANTE and put an awesome full stop at the end of the year, keep reading…

WOULD YOU LIKE TO HARNESS 2017 AND CLOSE OUT STRONG?

Every year at this time, I facilitate CLOSE OUT STRONG. Done as a stunningly supported group process you get to harness the GROSS AND GROOVY, the GLEES AND THE GLITCHES from 2017 to set yourself up for a LIGHTER start to 2018.

This process ensures you take stock and take charge.
Streamline and focus on what matters so that you don’t limp over the finish line but rather END PROUD AND TALL!

For more information READ HERE
Officially starts Friday 24th November, but you can join later if you choose.

Patience OR procrastination huh?

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Every now and then, it is true – that sitting patiently, silently, in a centered and non -pressurized way, simply biding your time is absolutely necessary! A bit like the full moon and the special Eclipse last night.  It can only happen at the EXACT moment it is ripe to happen. Not one second before. You can read more about what this eclipse means for you from an awesome colleague, Cassandra- click here.

And at other times, you are merely conning yourself -yes, YOU ARE CONNING YOURSELF and playing small. And what is called for is a little nudge or even a tougher kickup the b*tt  to get back into action as opposed to wallowing around pretending to be patient. All that matters is that you do the right one at the right time, and don’t con yourself you are being “patient” when actually you are faffing around. “procrastinating”.

Make sense?

There is a HUGE difference between these two scenarios. I think that all too often we think we are being patient with regards to an outcome we want, or a goal we are working towards, when all we are really doing is wasting time and space by not doing anything. We can lull ourselves into the sense of false security that the time is not right, when in actual fact we are conning ourselves and letting ourselves easily off the hook.

We can get VERY good at doing that.

There is wisdom in knowing the difference between the two. Let me keep it simple as to how I see the difference…and see if you recognize where you are right now with regards to some aspect of your life.

 

How do you recognize if you are being patient?

You have a sense of order

You trust that things are right for you

It feels good on the inside

There is a sense of calm

You feel empowered that all is as it should be

You are positive about what is coming

You have taken all possible action within your power for this goal / outcome

You are excited and optimistic

You can sense the divine timing around it all

 

How do you recognize if you are just “messing about wasting time” procrastinating?

You are lethargic and tired

Your head is not focussed on your goal

You have no sense of direction….just ambling around

You have not taken all actions within your control

You expect others to be doing things

You are irritable the goal is not happening

You are blaming people or circumstances about why the goal is not being reached

You are doing things that have no real value; TV, shopping, sleeping unnecessarily

You are bored and apathetic

So, when you think about something that you say you really want and are not getting, just assess where you are at HONESTLY and if you need to actually start taking different action and get your b*tt into gear. If things are just as they should be for right now and everything is in perfect harmony then get on and enjoy the time you have on your hands by doing something else you really enjoy?

You cannot speed something up that is not ready…..so don’t even try.

HERE’S WHAT TO DO NOW IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE FAFFING ABOUT…

Mastermind groups have been THE game-changer for me over the past 7 years. If you are in JHB on the 19th  August, or Cape Town on the 27th August, why not join me for my powerful once off mastermind days?

Get the low down here: off the cuff MASTERMIND DAY snippets

LEAP ‘n LEVERAGE YOUR LIFE: ONCE-OFF MASTERMIND DAY
I will also be hosting ONCE off mastermind days – show up full tilt, with no further obligation other than fulfilling your commitments from the day. You will get input, support, be challenged and have access to 14 other brains, hearts and souls for 6 hours, FACE TO FACE. I know you will get HUGE take-home value from the day and hey, you might even be begging to join my next mastermind group. It’s as addictive as apparently, tattoos are (which is a complete assumption seeing as I don’t have any  – in case you were ever wondering)

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Love, life and little lice on Lesvos

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Of all the things one expects to see in Greece after the sparkling sea and white washed buildings with royal blue shutters, I think that ranked next highest is the plethora of kitty cats you just know in your heart that you will stumbled upon, fall over, give fright too, gaze upon and most definitely capture on your camera as they go about their lazy days. Maybe some sheep, goats, fish and seagulls too, but ALWAYS cats, always lurking close by food, wine, laughter and sunshine. You cannot get away from it. If you don’t like cats, don’t come to Greece – simple. Or bring your allergy pills with your dose of compassion.

 

From a tender age, all of double-figured ten in fact; I was the proud “slave” to a very special lilac point Siamese. Although a few years prior, Dixie had crept into our family by eating leaves outside the back kitchen door to capture my Nan’s attention – but now, this oriental beauty was truly mine. Or I was his to be honest. A birthday present I had begged for, longed for and dreamt about. The name Azure Dee had been tossed into the summer breeze of possible names by my Nan – a painter and artist at heart. She never said something was blue – it was cornflower blue, periwinkle blue, or Azure – just like the Aegean Sea where I am right now. Azure Dee sounded exotic and stage like and I loved it. You had to say it just right too: Aaaayzouer Dee, with a whimsical lilt to your voice.

 

So cats have been capturing my big kitty heart for a few decades now. Most cats in Greek are street cats – a mixture of wise, a tad shaggy and shabby, and full of love, life and the odd little lice (maybe fleas). On this idyllic island of Lesvos, and more particularly in Skala Eresos (where we host our writing retreats and catch a bronze tan) there are some very special cat and dog carers in the community and vets who donate of their time to spay, neuter and care for them. What I discovered on this, my second visit is that most cats are not as “streetish” as I thought, and they seem to adopt specific restaurants as their home, their hangout, and their spot to be. They might not all have names, but they have fresh fish in their tummy.

 

I even met three German-Greek cats – I kid you not they are bilingual ones at Gabi’s and Iannis restaurant. I will venture into spelling them as Langhaaken, Bloemenfloeken and ….mmm the third name escapes me so I better pay them a visit. Then I discovered second year around, that one of my favourites, a black cat, sparkling green eyes, ONE white whisker and a penchant for sleeping on my backpack, I found was actually loved at the delightful Gorgona. When asking “Omar Sharif” their names, he just smiled his naughty smile and said, “names, ag, ask me if I love them. YES. Ask me if I feed them. YES. Even in winter I come down from the village to feed them”. So green eyes doesn’t need a name perhaps. Then my favourite cat I was really missing, as after full a week here I had still not seen it yet, thinking perhaps the winter has claimed his life– only to get a big squeaky hello when daring to venture into Blue Sardine to get my fix of …well you know, sardines. I feel happy to NOT be a vegetarian anymore. Perhaps one day my body will demand it of me again, as it has twice in my life before, but for now, I happily devour freshly caught fish, sustaining the local fishermen and restaurants and adding some fat to those thin bellies of kitties in Lesvos.

 

Do you stop often and long enough to watch?
Watch the world, absorb your surroundings, reflect and see life through the eyes of others, or chat to mewing kitty cats? Or are you too busy running around, scrambling after your life and chasing your goals, or more aptly chasing your tail? What if you were to stop doing what you have always done, and find a new way? For that you need to be brave, willing and supported as you dare to exponentially shift your life. In 2016 I came to the Greek island for one month, and declared 2 months for 2017. And here I am, living that commitment and bringing a group of writers here with me. We have 14 confirmed to join us. Next year I will be running other retreats for healing and weaving your purposeful life too!

 

HOW CAN I BE OF SERVICE TO YOU RIGHT NOW?

As a professional coach, mastermind facilitator, speaker and author I am hell-bent on following my passion and always upping the ante. Daring to be bigger and bolder by letting go of that which no longer serves and being willing to stretch my self-imposed boundaries.

One of the ways I have personally exponentially shifted my life is through the concept of MASTERMINDS. I see they are becoming the “in” thing this year, and I am happy to say I am ahead of the pack. I started facilitating and participating in Mastermind groups way back in 2010, so have many successful groups under my belt, which means people have shifted their lives!

I am offering two immediate options to tap into my support and energy to exponentially SHIFT YOUR LIFE

#1: MASTERMIND
We are starting a new group (for entrepreneurs /decision makers in your business) for you folk who are already doing really well and feel in charge of your life in most ways and who are ready to RAMP IT UP exponentially and create and reach some big targets and life style changes by the end of the year. This first group has a once off special price of 5 months charged at just 3 months. This will not be on offer again and is my way of enticing you into VIRTUAL mastermind- as we meet from anywhere in the world using video conferencing facilities. 80% of my work is now online!

Drop me an email for the application – kate@kate-emmerson.com

 

#2: LEAP ‘n LEVERAGE YOUR LIFE: ONCE-OFF MASTERMIND DAY
I will also be hosting ONCE off mastermind days – show up full tilt, with no further obligation other than fulfilling your commitments from the day. You will get input, support, be challenged and have access to 15 other brains, hearts and souls for 6 hours, FACE TO FACE in JHB on the 5th August. (Cape Town will be by demand). I know you will get HUGE take-home value from the day and hey, you might even be begging to join my next mastermind group. It’s as addictive as apparently, tattoos are (which is a complete assumption seeing as I don’t have any  – in case you were ever wondering)

Book NOW for JHB -5th August
10 am – 4 pm
Lunch Included
Venue: The “parks” area near Hyde Park
Max 16 people – with smaller breakaway groups!

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR PLACE NOW

 

 

What to do when what you do isn’t doing you!

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What to do when what you do isn’t doing you!
How to move gently through the space of being “bored” of and questioning your supposed passion.

Damn I hate this space – has that feeling ever fallen like the soft patter of rain around you but at some point starts shifting in energy and begins feeling more like it’s a choking smog noosing your neck? When you start feeling a mixture of bored and hemmed in by your very own business, your very own passion. The one YOU created. The one where you can’t blame your boss or your company because well, essentially, YOU created it all.

Oh, the sweet, annoying irony!

I’m in that love-hate relationship right now. With my energy levels, my enthusiasm, my business model, and my future dwelling. It’s a tad too ironic for me! If you read my second book DITCH YOUR GLITCH you will already know the pain ‘n pleasures I faced when having to repurpose my life 8 years go. And I feel a similar time is dawning. A time to think about a new way to do. DO LIFE.

There are honestly days where all I want is a million bucks (not too greedy but can it be in dollars please!) stashed in an offshore account somewhere (can you tell I DON’T have one of those yet), and the luxury of 6 months with ZERO obligations.

ZERO

OBLIGATIONS

I’m fast realizing I have already packed one hundred and fifty years worth of experiences into my meager 49 (on Monday 24th April) years! Some days I love the work I do – feel blessed, ignited, engaged, tuned in, and on others – well let’s say the love factor is a tad lacking.

I want, no NEED to create a new way – forge a new rhythm. It helps me help you better! Going location free last year helped me create an even more beautiful life where I get to travel and share my energy with more people globally, but at the same time there is a lack of …..yes and what next? Trying to live each day in the moment coupled with where is this all going. I do NOT have all the answers, so I am merely musing about how do I,  YOU and us navigate awkward space when it is upon us?

Do you recognize this – where some days you love the work you do and quite frankly there are also other days you just don’t give a damn. This is true for me and  I know this is possibly gonna make you think – hell girl, how on earth can I trust you enough to work with you to help me shift my life?

Well because I’m busy re-configuring things, just like you are. Finding a way forward without dropping all I have worked so hard for. Does that ring true for you too? I know I need some more drastic changes again to step it all up another notch. It is notches, isn’t it? Sometimes it’s little steps, other times a salsa move here and there, next some massive leaps and then periods of confusion and rest. I feel the older I get simultaneously the “scareder” and the bolder I get. I have to wrestle the fear monster to the ground more often and embrace the bold leaper in me more and more. Our tomorrow isn’t promised, so the question is,”What to do when what you do isn’t doing you?”

When the appeal of having to inspire, cajole, shift someone towards their goals or just listen to someone ever again seems too much to ask in the moment and the thought of a six-month silent meditation retreat way up on a hilltop rates high on the appeal list, then I know it’s time! When I start oscillating like this I know I’m in for a bit of a ride that involves culling, setting new boundaries and calling on some bigass boldness in what I choose to channel my work energy into.

I know what it is – I have just been procrastinating!

That’s also the joy of getting older – I really don’t have to try and do everything and the biggest gift to myself is alignment and doing what matters the most and gives my soul the best kick of energy in return.  Are you at that point yet? I know I’m just messing with my head – because helping and inspiring others in some form just lives in my blood. So I know a few things that I suggest to myself to do when the “What to do when what you do isn’t doing you” mode kicks in…

Get more self-care – massage, reflex, support etc

Practise KINDNESS – for me and YOU

Close out some things draining my energy

Say no to stuff I really don’t want to do

Make different decisions about work I choose to go after for the next 6 months

Be bolder with my fees and simultaneously the value I offer

Sleep more

Juice more

Just let the stuff going on in my head and heart play itself out – sit with it and befriend it for a while

Stop forcing it to shift, ‘cos I know my personal tide will shift – just like yours will.

Like writing blog posts. I last did a newsletter to my database at the end of March, and no matter how often I saw the “task” reminding me to love my database and send a newsletter -I just couldn’t muster up any enthusiasm to write to you. Rude? Mmm, perhaps just honest. Then at the ungodly hour of 1.30 am this morning, with a bit of jet lag still lurking, an energizing call with our professional writer’s mastermind group and the weight of my partner in the hospital, I find myself wide-eyed and willing to write again. LUCKY you ha ha.

SO, WHAT TO DO NEXT?
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Kate

SCHEME YOUR THEME…

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My questions for you in this week’s BLOG is: “Do you believe that you are a powerful manifesting magnet and are in control of a lot of your day?”

Please STOP and answer this question before reading on…

How did you read and interpret that question? Or is that all a bit way out and woo woo for you? Are you a positive, powerful, manifesting magnet for all your moment by moment experiences, amazing goals and dreams that you aspire to in your life; or are you a negatively powerful, manifesting magnet attracting all the hardship, lessons and “krap” in your life – the debt, anger, bad service, pain, jealousy, retrenchment, divorce etc.?

Or perhaps you shift between these two and are looking to find more “weight” with regards the former?

What you believe about yourself and the world emits a certain vibration or energy out in the world. We are what we think about, feel about, believe, speak about, dream about and live out. Whilst you may not be in control of the world around you and all the crazy happenings, you can be darn sure you are in control of your response to it! So here we are already into February, a Chinese New Year of the Rooster, boldly embracing 2017 and everyone is talking bla bla bla yadda yadda bla bla about changes, shifts, stuff to do, how THIS is my year etc. Lots of positive and negative energy is floating around – the positive is angled towards all the possibility of the year ahead and changes to implement whereas the negative gets vomited out depending on where you live and what’s going down in your country (the Brits are complaining about their inconsiderate transport and early strikes, the Americans about the demise of their country under Trump, the Saffa’s about how can corruption be diminished, JZ removed and rhino poachers strung up by their testicles, the rest of the world about poverty, war, death, famine, children being trafficked and money being stolen left right and centre.

Nothing changes on any given day as that awful struggle abounds at every turn and yet…everything can change in a flash. In an instant!

When it comes to YOU and your life, are you still flying high in the thigh slapping stage, whooping at colleagues in corridors to encourage each other because of course, the gyms are still chokka block at this point right? Yes you can laugh at yourself – we are so daft!

DAFT!

Every year I tell you, every year we do the same thing again and again. Why I purposefully DON’T put out this blog post on the 1st of January is that everyone is still in the thick of the idea that “YES, it will be different this year. I will make my mark and I will impact the world around me.”

Yes, and then?

Over the course of the next couple of weeks, the inevitable “slips” will happen. Those endless lists will be shoved in a drawer and guilt will set in, as you feel overwhelmed by the sheer magnitude of responsibility and tasks coming at you. AGAIN.
Gym 5 times a week- honestly?
Better communicator – how’s that working out for you in those meetings huh?
And unanimously on top of that dratted list every year is –
Make more money
Get organized
Spend more time with kids
Get fitter, lose 5 kgs or quit smoking.

Ah yes, and don’t forget sober January. How did that post work non- drink, clean month really work for you?
Or some version of those topics, so I bet some of them made it to YOUR list too.

So HOW do you tap into this idea of being a positive manifesting magnet that can enhance and uplift your 2017?

One of the things I share in my second book “DITCH YOUR GLITCH” is the power of VISION BOARDS. I share my own personal experience with them and how they have honestly helped me change my life, some client’s experiences of them and all the underlying information about WHY they work so brilliantly to keep you motivated, inspired and on track each year, especially if you keep them active (I put mine on my cell phone as a screensaver). They actively tap into the RAS- Reticular Activating System to help feed images and unconsciously conscious messages to your brain, ensuring you pay better attention, stay alert to what you say you want and make you more mindful. They are magic helpers on the path of being a positive manifesting magnet.

But the sad reality is that usually vision boards, goals, dreams and those commitments you have the best of intentions of fulfilling get shoved to the back burner, until you have learned to exercise your manifesting “muscle” over time.

And of course one of your “GLITCHES” (there are 5 I speak about in my book) – will usually win the day, trip you up and keep you playing small, no matter how kickass your vision board is at the start of the year. GLITCHES like being right, and the LOVE running and ruining our lives.

 

So all your aspirations will go running out the door at full tilt when you get even the slightest whiff of:

Overwhelm

Pressure from work deadlines looming close by

Remarks from family and friends to “stop being so silly”

Fear when your inner voice tells you can’t do what you want to

Unworthiness rearing its ugly head when you believe you are not worthy of achieving it all this year

Distraction yelling at you that something else other than your dreams are more vital right now

Drama from your life or others around you

 

How are you going to rise above all the external conflicts, demands and obligations and let this be the year that you really DO make some impactful and lasting changes in a specific area of your life? If you haven’t already heard about it, 2017 is a bigger, fresher start energetically. If you add up the 2+0+1+7 = 10, which = 1. So 2017 is a #1 year of the next 9-year cycle, meaning there is an underlying energy you can tap into that will help you start afresh again. Can you somehow tap into the significance of this rhythm for your life?

Are you asking yourself the right questions about the next 9 year cycle, so that this year is the first step on that cycle – it makes it a little more note-worthy doesn’t it? I know I am paying a little more attention to this year and what seeds I sow, knowing the impact is bigger than usual.

 

The reality is that you are a manifesting magnet, whether you realize it consciously or not. The quality of your self-talk, self esteem and self-belief will determine the positive or negative quality of your life. You are much more in control of your world than you realize! So my challenge to you is that if you don’t like what you have got in your world and in your life, you need to first start thinking, being, doing, acting, speaking and then aligning yourself differently.

How do you know what you want – you look at what you have GOT!!!  EEEECK – At the deepest of sub conscious levels. I dare you to OWN THAT as an idea for a while and see what happens to your outlook on what you can shift.

If I can offer some advice for this time of year, I would suggest you pair it down to something even simpler than a vision board, or your myriad of goals/resolutions. Bring it down to ONE CONCEPT. I talk about the THEME, or ESSENCE of your year going forward. More than a goal, this is like an umbrella that will color and tint the way you go about your year ahead.

It can be a single word, 3 words, a sentence. Perhaps like the title of a book.

It enables you to have a YES/NO way to track everything you do, everything you say YES to, every decision you make, every action step.

You can come back to this ONE SIMPLE ESSENCE so that every single time you make ANY decision you can pitch it against your ESSENCE and evaluate “will this help me live this essence this year”?

 

Every year I have an ESSENCE that gets plotted out on a vision board. Some of mine have been…

Aligned Freedom

POWER

Courageous shifts – big and small

The key to life is being you.

Global nomad – yes the year I manifested 8 overseas trips (none of which were booked at the start of that year when I created that theme!)

Reaping exponential rewards on my decadent odyssey – 2016 that was one of my best LOCATION FREE years ever, after packing up my home and travelling the world for work and life, making plans to spend more time in the USA.

 

For me 2017 is my year of “FOUNDATIONS TO FLY” – unpacked a bit more that means “Profoundly Stable foundations to fly courageously and luxuriously high”. I am so excited about how I am creating this year ahead and put a lot of work into it over December and January as I closed out my year with mindful purpose to gain traction for the year ahead! I have to do some necessary work on my business foundations again, reworking and rewiring some of how I offer services, yet I am hell bent on living with courage and offering everything up as bigger and bolder and I am ready for my travel to be a notch more luxurious. Everything I do is geared around this over-riding ESSENCE now.

 

Some clients themes have included:

Organized simplicity

Abundance abounds

Compassionate Care – self and others

Empathy, enthusiasm and energy

Passion and profit

BOLD ‘n brave
My year of “ME”

YES!

Fearless boundaries

Getting Clean – inside and out

Space

Show up

Go big or go home

Letting go – making space

New beginnings

Purposeful prosper

And the list goes on and on …

 

So now it’s your turn. Before you consider umpteen new goals, daft resolutions, busy vision boards or endless tasks to tick off –find a simple yet powerful concept to drive your decisions all year. A barometer to keep you on track, on purpose and on point. Do not underestimate the impact of a few simple words chosen with thoughtful care. Take some time to discover the simple ESSENCE of your year ahead.

To get more support on making some permanent shifts in line with your essence, be sure to grab a copy of my book DITCH YOUR GLITCH

 

 

CLOSE OUT STRONG! Quit your flapping and ride your thermals…

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“Quit your flapping and ride your thermals.”
D. Jones

Are you are falling prey to this time of year, the ever present negative energy and perhaps even “counting sleeps and sheeps” – not in an excited, overjoyed, childlike waiting for Santa and presents kind of way – but the kind counting diminishing sleeps till you FINALLY take your last commute to the office, or simply say aaaargh THANK GOODNESS this awful year is finally over. I can kick it to touch, desperately hoping never to have a repeat performance?Perhaps your attention is wrapped up in all the disgusts and none of the delights?  Too many people are getting pulled down by others around them, or, (maybe you are the one doing it) buying into the group energy  ….moan moan moan…. I’m tired, too busy, overwhelmed bla bla bladi bla.

What a true pity that is! Really!

But what if you actually want to run at 100 Km, and know it’s possible but you are being stopped by everyone else saying you can only run at 40 km an hour. Because, you know, it’s that time of year and everyone is winding down. Seriously? This is your life. EACH DAY MATTERS! Each thermal you can ride maters. Each kilometre you can run, matters. YOU MATTER!

cheeta-40

 

Sure, I get that every year has it’s ups and down, I’m IN that pot with you every year. Some years kick you about more than others, some years are filled with delight and I have learned it’s about being OK with that, in fact embracing it! I honestly believe each year has an element of all facets, from drab to fab scattered through the year. Life is about growth, challenge, expanding and learning. It’s not about comfort zones and staying small is it?
Whilst that feels wooly, warm and cozy, it’s not who we are intrinsically. Yet we resist so vehemently when our life wants us to expand. Duh!

And to go one step further – 2016 is a 9 year. Meaning it’s the end of a massive cycle of completion. GOT IT? If you add the numbers together 2016 =9. Therefore 2017 will be a 1 – fresh start, new beginnings. Think about it at it’s most simple level to just greet the concept with a hello.
A 9 ends the current numerical cycle we are in. Whilst there are also 7 -year cycles that operate at another level, there is a very predominant “decade” cycle, which is why we are so obsessed with celebrating the 20/30/40/50/60 etc birthdays.  So whilst the year is completing at one level as we do every year, even deeper than that we are completing a 9 YEAR CYCLE this year.

WOWSER! Just think about YOUR last 9 years. I bet you there is some magic there to remember and maybe some monsters too :)

But when we are dead tired, dead bored, and just stuck in the “ENOUGH ALREADY” zone, it’s almost darn near impossible to stop and harness the past 12 months with creativity and insight. Don’t let this pivotal and precious time of year get away from you untapped! And certainly don’t let the decade beat you down!

Many people reaching out to me are exhibiting one of the following modes: overwhelm, panic, where the heck has the year gone, adrenal burnout, or more often the “I just can’t be as$ed anymore” mode – either jarringly gritting your teeth till you go away and know you can FINALLY switch off and chill to a calmer routine or sign off that big final project for the year as you toss some thank you gifts at clients and dash out the door?

There is a different way.

At some point before 31st December, I set time aside (you will benefit most from about an hour to do it consciously), pour a glass of wine and do a very precious CLOSE OUT STRONG PROCESS to help me wander back over the past 12 months to create a deep awareness of the year gone by. I also do a much, much deeper process at least a month before the end of the year to ensure I‘m keeping my eye on the ball to end on a high.  Think of it as a simultaneous pat on the back and a wee kick up the proverbial to “land” everything.

WANT TO JUMP IN RIGHT NOW?
Here is a condensed version for you to use the following 3 questions to do a powerful 30- minute CLOSE OUT to 2016. Sit with some pen and paper and allow yourself to wander back through the entire year, looking for the high, the low and the let go…

  1. What are you most PROUD OF AND WHY?
  2. What was your #1 CHALLENGE you faced – how can you leverage what you learn from it?
  3. What ONE THING can you leave behind and let go of?

ARE YOU READY TO REALLY UP THE ANTE AND CLOSE OUT STRONG?
Yup, RIGHT NOW!  CLICK HERE 

I am so passionate about this concept of completing the year with mindfulness and elegantly putting it to bed, that I have listened to my clients and created a 5-day process – which in reality takes you only 5 hours, just an HOUR A DAY. Don’t drag 2016 into the new year with you!

 5- DAYS TO CLOSE OUT STRONG.

STEP IN and Reflect on your year
STEP UP by Committing  to Complete
HARNESS the year’s challenges with wisdom with hindsight
Acknowledge USHERS
Put the year elegantly to bed and LET GO
STEP OUT into 2017 with clarity and a “theme”
 

YES, KATE I WANT TO CLOSE OUT STRONG!

CLICK HERE

 

CLOSE OUT STRONG and end your year PROUD AND TALL – not wiped out and small!

READ MORE HERE and read what others say about CLOSE OUT STRONG so you feel excited to join the process and make THIS year end different and powerful.

Where you start is not as important as where you finish!

Zig Ziglar

Holiday guests arriving, house a mess causing you stress?

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I hear this all the time: “I have holiday guests coming and my house is a total mess, where do I start? PLEASE HELP ME KATE!!!

The holidays cause everyone to go into overwhelm and panic mode. It is supposed to be the happiest time of the year filled with visions of sugar plums and presents under the trees or latkes and jelly donuts. Whatever your tradition if you are the host for the festivities you are filled with other people’s expectations only exceeded by your own. You want everything to be perfect. We can break it down into digestible bites.
You can read the FULL BLOG POST over on my USA publishers website – and be sure to let your international friends know they can read it too. CLICK HERE 

 

5 TIPS to TOP UP YOUR “VIP RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF”!

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When life gets too busy, overwhelming and a tad out of hand, it can be useful to resort to proven strategies to help you create a healthier, kinder relationship with yourself. And let’s face it, it all starts there! 

TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE – I reveal 5 simple tips you can effectively implement to improve your relationship with the #1 in your life – YOU. When you are truly feeling empowered and nourished, you will then have a power-packed impact on others around you. Stop thinking it’s selfish to improve your VIP relationship with YOURSELF.

 

  1. START SMALL

One of the biggest traps people fall headlong into is to make unrealistic demands on how they are going to change everything all at once – going GUN HO – sound familiar? Then you usually land up changing nothing and are left bereft of your goals and feeling far worse off. But everyone, including you, CAN START SMALL. Think about a 10% improvement in some area of your life; after you have achieved that, you can start on the next aspect. One small chunk at a time.

HOW TO: What 1 (ONE) thing can you commit to shifting today and how will you shift it? Start small to end tall. Hit reply and tell me or leave a comment below.

 

  1. STOP WORRYING ABOUT OTHERS’ OPINIONS

What other people think about you in NONE of your business. WHAT?!! Yes how often is everything you do, think, or feel based on how others will approve or disapprove of you? Your life is meant to be one of joy and reaching for what makes you happy. If you don’t know, find out. Every time you put another’s needs ahead of your own for the wrong reasons, and drop yourself off your own priority list, you are in effect making their needs more important than your own. How will you ever achieve happiness? You can continue to think it is the most generous thing (giving of yourself for the betterment of others), which it absolutely IS, PROVIDED it is NOT at the expense of yourself. Be more in control of what you need to do within your own space, take charge of your issues and challenges and stop “vomiting” your stuff into other people’s space. BE the best version of yourself so that you are more available to others.

HOW TO: For the next 5 days, when you wake up in the morning, your challenge is to do something for YOURSELF first. Perhaps a cup of tea on your own before you wake up the rest of the house, ten minutes writing in your journal, a walk etc. You can come back to everyone else AFTER you have taken care of YOU.

 

  1. QUIT THINKING “EITHER / OR” and go for “AND”

We have been taught it is one or the other. Really? Who says? This concept boils down to self-belief and the idea that you can have what you choose in the way that you want it. Most of us have been brought up to make choices, and choices have consequences. Yet if you have the courageous conversations with yourself and others about what is really important to you, then you may just be able to find a way forward that incorporates BOTH, or several options, the commonly known WIN-WIN. I prefer to think of it as AND! It is a mindset of how you view the world and what you expect you deserve. It also links to point 2 – it is possible to put yourself on your priority list AND thereby still be able to help others too! Ponder that for a moment.

 

HOW TO: every time you hear yourself saying “OR”, reframe the sentence or request to use “AND”. Make it a game to see how often you can do it and enlist the help of someone at home or the office to challenge you.

 

4.TRUST YOUR GUT

I cannot emphasize this enough. Your instincts will always give you the right answer and will show you the orange warning lights. Sure, your nasty, mean and self-deprecating nagging voice will try its best to sabotage you and turn you against yourself. It is simply your little voice’s job to make you doubt yourself, and yet, your spirit ultimately demands that you listen to your gut. Make a decision based on your gut, find reasons to support it and MOVE ON! Think back to any things that “went wrong” and ask yourself honestly if you always knew at the start but simply never listened. This links to point 2 again – so often we are simply scared to trust ourselves and will abdicate to others’ rather than make any waves.

HOW TO: A bit of a weird one to try – The moment you hear your nagging voice kick in, literally say to it – “thank you for your input but I’m going with my gut on this one just for now, thank you”. Try it J

 

  1. BE ACCOUNTABLE

If you are honest with yourself, then you know whether you are disciplined and self-reliable in pursuing your goals or if you need some help. Even the most successful people that you know achieve massive results because they have support systems and are accountable for the right reasons. Get a support group, a disciplined friend, join a course, and have a “go – to” person to help you stay on track. Quit trying to do it on your own then beating yourself up ‘cos you feel like a failure.

HOW TO: Call or mail someone today to let them know what you are working on and that you wish to enlist their help in achieving your weekly deliverables.

 

NEED SOME MORE HELP?

 

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU CAN DO NOW TO INSTANTLY IMPROVE YOUR
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.

Yup, RIGHT NOW!

I am so passionate about this concept of sorting out our inner life, our core, our sense of self and our relationship with ourselves, that I created a very simple to follow, 20 minutes a day ZAP of energy titled “THE CAPPUCCINO CHALLENGE”.

Designed to literally take you just 20 minutes a day  – for YOU to put yourself on your priority list. You can check it out  WATCH HERE

This is a journey loved by thousands  and helps you can start seeing the positive in yourself, others and your environment, then this is the most streamlined way to do that..

HERE IS WHAT YOU WILL GET on the CAPPUCCINO CHALLENGE:

  • Easy to follow daily challenges, that can be implemented from anywhere – home, office or your favourite coffee shoppe
  • Combination of short videos and punchy emails that take less that 2 minutes to read!
  • Integrate the 20 minutes a day habit
  • Small Tweaks will lead to MASSIVE CHANGES
  • Create a new habit linked to your daily ritual of drinking coffee, tea or smoothies so you will always stick to it
  • Themed challenges to focus your efforts each week
  • How to Put Yourself back on your own TO DO LIST!
  • Improve your relationship with yourself – the MOST important one
  • Challenge how you interact with your environment
  • Re-engage and communicate with others in a more effective way
  • Learn to trust what life brings your way
  • A private online community of support so you do not feel alone on your journey
  • Real support from Kate who actively supports, cajoles, guides and motivates you

 

I can’t wait to support the shifts you will make so that you become top of your own priority list again.

LEARN MORE NOW – when you sign up you immediately get started on your journey of self-awareness and new habits formed with ease. Remember, where attention goes ENERGY FLOWS!!!

With lightness,

Kate

 

 

Courageous conversations bla bla bla…

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How to have the right conversations so it’s not all bla bla bla

There is an incredible POWER and emotional release that comes from having COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS. And more often than not you have to have a different perspective to allow yourself to even go there. In the fascinating world of CLUTTER that I “play” in, I believe that holding on to things in the emotional realm can carry more weight than all the contents of your entire house, or office. Hundreds of kilograms! It is tangible, heavy, debilitating and will always keep you STUCK IN THE PAST. If you feel like your life is being ruled and ruined by others, by things that have transpired in your life perhaps it’s time to take a long hard look at what YOU NEED to do now to heal and release yourself from the pain of what you are holding onto.

Do you need to have any courageous conversations in your life? Do you even know what they are when I say the word?

When I have the privilege of sharing time with audiences as their speaker I will often get hundreds of people in a room to put their hands on their hearts, or do an old fashioned “pinkie swear” – attaching little fingers to their best friend or colleague – as a public commitment to clear out heavy emotional clutter. That’s the first step after being honest enough to admit that you even need to have one. So getting a room full of people on their feet to bravely share the courageous conversation they need to have in their life, can be an immense turning point. All too often we cannot even get to the point to ADMIT to ourselves that there is a conversation to be had, because it so much easier to stay on THIS side of the conversation. It’s safer. We also find all sorts of excuses, some conscious and others underlying that drive our behaviours unbeknownst to us …

 

We are too BUSY

Too lazy

Too scared

Too locked in victim mode

Everyone else needs me right now

It will change if I just let it “be” and not rock the boat

Bla bla bla

Coming “clean” and being honest with yourself and others will positively effect you on all levels and will feel like an immense fog lifting. It won’t necessary solve it all immediately, but no longer having to hide and keep up the façade will offer some relief to your heart and soul.

 

What is a courageous conversation?

It is probably the one you DO NOT WANT TO HAVE. The one that fills you with the most dread, fear or embarrassment. Or the one that may possibly change your life the most through the risk and guts it requires from you. Or the one that may require you to walk away from people and places you love. The one that can turn the pit of your stomach to acid and your legs to jelly in a flash. The one that feels like it will rip you apart even just thinking about it.

 

 Yep…the one you need to have!

OFTEN IT IS WITH YOURSELF!

 

You already know which one it is you need to have as you are reading this blog…but knowing humans pretty well, including myself, you are probably pushing it aside right now and pretending it’s not THE one to have… all the fear kicks in…I know what we do as I have been there!!

 

 Here are a few examples of “opening lines” for these big ol’ chats

  • I resent how much you work over the weekends, every weekend
  • I have been having an affair for the past 2 years
  • I am no longer in love with you, even though I love you
  • I need to go into debt review and we may lose the house
  • I have been making use of internet porn
  • I am an alcoholic
  • I’m sorry that I ……
  • I’m angry at you for being absent in the kids lives
  • I am illegal in this county and want to apply for legal residency
  • I stole money from you ten years ago
  • I have just been retrenched and I am terrified to talk about it
  • You are a bully and I’m scared of you
  • I really need to be acknowledged for my hard work on this project
  • I love you and …will you marry me?
  • You still owe me that money you borrowed and its affecting our friendship
  • I can no longer tolerate your abuse of animals and am reporting you to the SPCA

 

 What are the real clues you need a courageous conversation?

  • There is something that hangs over you every single day causing stress
  • You are hiding something from someone / several people
  • There is a feeling of shame, embarrassment, guilt, fear etc
  • You are angry or even slightly annoyed with someone
  • The mere thought of having the conversation leaves you sweaty or anxious
  • There is huge potential risk attached to the conversation
  • You feel like you could “lose” something dear to you
  • It is easier NOT to have the conversation ‘cos it is very uncomfortable!

 

Lots of us will say…. ah Kate you know I HAVE dealt with this, it is better to let sleeping dogs lie, don’t open the can of worms, it is not worth the risk, I will deal with this on my own, I’m not good with being honest etc. We have a hundred valid excuses. But if there are still any emotions that come up for you that have not been dealt with or addressed, it is always better out than buried inside you. The amount of energy it requires to keep something hidden is like holding a big beach ball under water…it always wants to pop up and bounce back on top of the water.

 

Is there a real RISK?

Of course there is a risk.

Let’s be real here, but life is risky every single day!

If you are trying to live your life without any risk at all, you are not truly living, and if you are trying to live your life everyday playing it too safe, you die metaphorically LONG before your death.

 

Risk is not always a bad thing!

 

There is a potentially positive risk that the outcome will be way better than you can ever have imagined, or at the very least you get to feel the relief at having had the conversation and be able to move on. But yes, to be brutally honest in some instances the outcome could be your worst nightmare. The very thing you are trying to avoid hence one of the biggest reasons you are NOT having the conversation. But at what cost to you? You may lose your job, your partner, go to jail, become bankrupt, get evicted, become the subject of a scandal and even lose friends.

But what about doing the right thing for the right reasons and being fearless to set yourself free?

Sometimes you may even need to get professional advice before having a courageous conversation. But in my experience the reward usually outweighs the risk.

You have to be willing to walk through the fire to the other side….

 

RIGHT – THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IN ORDER TO GET STARTED!
Yup, RIGHT NOW!

 

I am so passionate about this concept of LIVING FREE FROM ANXIETY and EMOTIONAL CLUTTER- releasing ourselves from all the YUCKY STUFF that holds our hearts back, causes pain and steals our power, that for me it all starts with being HONEST.

One of the SIMPLEST starting points is simply to TAKE STOCK in all 8 areas of life, so that you get clear on WHERE YOU are and what is and isn’t working for you.

 

I have created an entire video series – FREE of charge to support you to get started. Click here to  QUICK SHIFT 1 THING using the 4  G-SPOTS of TRANSFORMATION
If I can help you do that as smartly as possible, then you wil have some starting points for COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS. And that is good for ALL of us. And then for sure, perhaps you will feel ready to trust me to help you take the next step. But we will cross that barrier when we get there … and there is no obligation. I simply get a kick out of helping people SHIFT!

 

When you sign up, you will need to confirm your e-mail address, and get stuck into the first video with pen and paper. Then I will send you 2 more videos.

These 3 live videos will cover the 4 G spots of Transformation – Grips, Gap, Grow and Guts.

TAKING STOCK in all 8 areas will help you figure in which 1 area YOU need to have that courageous conversation, either with yourself or another person in your life.

Then further down the line you will be invited to my other fabulous programme called The Cappuccino Challenge. Another surefire way to stay HONEST with YOURSELF. Courageous acts every day for 30 days. Loved by THOUSANDS of CLIENTS that have transformed their lives permanently in just 20 minutes a day  –  Just so you know what’s in store for you as you join my “tribe” ok?

LET’S GET YOU STARTED RIGHT AWAY

 

When expectancy rules in your favour…

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There are two ways to look at expectancy – one is on a purely materialistic, foot stomping, “get your own way” kind of way to look at it. The second is the way that paves the way to miracles happening … and what I’m talking about below.

Whatever your religious persuasion or affiliation, miracles can occur in any form –  be it in gifts, unexpected pleasures, hardships being overcome, little pearls of wisdom dropping into your lap, a chance meeting with someone that somehow changes the course of your life.

Miraculous things happen in each and every moment and if you are looking out for them…a positive expectancy of finding the good and the glow in every minute, rather than the sick and the slow.

So what do you EXPECT IN YOUR LIFE?

Miracles do not have to be massive positive explosions of energy or gigantic outcomes…they can be a collection of small wondrous occurrences, that once witnessed can alter your life forever. A smile from someone who is worse off that you is a form of minute by minute miracle, a flower blossoming from mud is one too; being able to get up and survive each day no matter what is thrown at you is a miraculous testament to the strength of human spirit; an animal’s unconditional love no matter how you treat it  they will always welcome you home again – we could learn from that as humans.

So this beautiful sentence “The Atmosphere of Expectancy is the Breeding Ground for Miracles” that I heard on a TV channel really grabbed me from a life perspective!

I think it is just the reminder that we have to create the atmosphere from within….how you take and make each moment of each day determines the overall outcome of your life. If you have a positive atmosphere that you create in and around your life, you will live in that atmosphere like your own little magic bubble. Once you “map” or “match” that positive atmosphere with the concept of also constantly expecting great things to happen to you, with magic and miracles coming your way all the time, good to prevail and happiness to be possible……well then that too will be your reality. And even when the  inevitable bumps come along in the road, you will see them in perspective of the whole – and gain some insight and wisdom from the event, even when it is life threatening or heartbreaking. It’s about being able to be OK in the middle of the storm even when you want to die. The expectancy that this too shall pass, I will get through this no matter what.

What you focus on, INCREASES. That is a simple universal spiritual law. So if you focus on expecting more and more positive things to flood your way, that’s what you will get more of. Energy can move towards you because you are ready for it and welcoming it. Do you know that you can chase things away as well…..by simply having the wrong attitude, being pessimistic, negative, focussing on everything that you don’t want and having an atmosphere of negative expectancy?

Where attention goes ENERGY FLOWS!!!

So when you IMMERSE yourself in the atmosphere of POSITIVE expectancy, then ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN. Live with the possibility of magic and see what happens to you.

Be open to flow in your life, be open to opportunity. Align your desires with what is for your highest goals. Have goals and outcomes but let go of attachment to the outcome. OOOOhhhhh boy that is often a hard one hey!!! If something is meant to be yours you will not be able to keep it from you, but you always have to be willing to STEP UP in your life.

 

RIGHT – THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU CAN DO NEXT TO HELP SUPPORT POSITIVE EXPECTANCY IN YOUR LIFE! Yup, RIGHT NOW!

I am so passionate about this concept of sorting out our inner life, our core, our sense of self that I created a very snappy, zappy 30 day e-mail course titled THE CAPPUCCINO CHALLENGE. Designed to take you 20 minutes a day  – just for YOU. You can check it out  WATCH HERE

This is a journey loved by thousands  –  if YOU need to put yourself back on your own priority list again, so that you can start seeing the positive in yourself, others and your environment, then this is the most streamlined way to do that..

HERE IS WHAT YOU WILL GET on the CAPPUCCINO CHALLENGE:

  • Easy to follow daily challenges, that can be implemented from anywhere – home, office or your favourite coffee shoppe
  • Combination of short videos and punchy emails that take less that 2 minutes to read!
  • Integrate the 20 minutes a day habit
  • Small Tweaks will lead to MASSIVE CHANGES
  • Create a new habit linked to your daily ritual of drinking coffee, tea or smoothies  so you will always stick to it
  • Themed challenges to focus your efforts each week
  • How to Put Yourself back on your own TO DO LIST!
  • Improve your relationship with yourself – the MOST important one
  • Challenge how you interact with your environment
  • Re-engage and communicate with others in a more effective way
  • Learn to trust what life brings your way
  • A private online community of support so you do not feel alone on your journey
  • Real support from Kate who actively supports, cajoles, guides and motivates you

I can’t wait to support the shifts you will make so that you become the breeding ground for miracles again.

LEARN MORE NOW – when you sign up you immediately get started on your journey of self awareness and new habits formed with ease. Remember, where attention goes ENERGY FLOWS!!!

With lightness,

Kate