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What to do when what you do isn’t doing you!

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What to do when what you do isn’t doing you!
How to move gently through the space of being “bored” of and questioning your supposed passion.

Damn I hate this space – has that feeling ever fallen like the soft patter of rain around you but at some point starts shifting in energy and begins feeling more like it’s a choking smog noosing your neck? When you start feeling a mixture of bored and hemmed in by your very own business, your very own passion. The one YOU created. The one where you can’t blame your boss or your company because well, essentially, YOU created it all.

Oh, the sweet, annoying irony!

I’m in that love-hate relationship right now. With my energy levels, my enthusiasm, my business model, and my future dwelling. It’s a tad too ironic for me! If you read my second book DITCH YOUR GLITCH you will already know the pain ‘n pleasures I faced when having to repurpose my life 8 years go. And I feel a similar time is dawning. A time to think about a new way to do. DO LIFE.

There are honestly days where all I want is a million bucks (not too greedy but can it be in dollars please!) stashed in an offshore account somewhere (can you tell I DON’T have one of those yet), and the luxury of 6 months with ZERO obligations.

ZERO

OBLIGATIONS

I’m fast realizing I have already packed one hundred and fifty years worth of experiences into my meager 49 (on Monday 24th April) years! Some days I love the work I do – feel blessed, ignited, engaged, tuned in, and on others – well let’s say the love factor is a tad lacking.

I want, no NEED to create a new way – forge a new rhythm. It helps me help you better! Going location free last year helped me create an even more beautiful life where I get to travel and share my energy with more people globally, but at the same time there is a lack of …..yes and what next? Trying to live each day in the moment coupled with where is this all going. I do NOT have all the answers, so I am merely musing about how do I,  YOU and us navigate awkward space when it is upon us?

Do you recognize this – where some days you love the work you do and quite frankly there are also other days you just don’t give a damn. This is true for me and  I know this is possibly gonna make you think – hell girl, how on earth can I trust you enough to work with you to help me shift my life?

Well because I’m busy re-configuring things, just like you are. Finding a way forward without dropping all I have worked so hard for. Does that ring true for you too? I know I need some more drastic changes again to step it all up another notch. It is notches, isn’t it? Sometimes it’s little steps, other times a salsa move here and there, next some massive leaps and then periods of confusion and rest. I feel the older I get simultaneously the “scareder” and the bolder I get. I have to wrestle the fear monster to the ground more often and embrace the bold leaper in me more and more. Our tomorrow isn’t promised, so the question is,”What to do when what you do isn’t doing you?”

When the appeal of having to inspire, cajole, shift someone towards their goals or just listen to someone ever again seems too much to ask in the moment and the thought of a six-month silent meditation retreat way up on a hilltop rates high on the appeal list, then I know it’s time! When I start oscillating like this I know I’m in for a bit of a ride that involves culling, setting new boundaries and calling on some bigass boldness in what I choose to channel my work energy into.

I know what it is – I have just been procrastinating!

That’s also the joy of getting older – I really don’t have to try and do everything and the biggest gift to myself is alignment and doing what matters the most and gives my soul the best kick of energy in return.  Are you at that point yet? I know I’m just messing with my head – because helping and inspiring others in some form just lives in my blood. So I know a few things that I suggest to myself to do when the “What to do when what you do isn’t doing you” mode kicks in…

Get more self-care – massage, reflex, support etc

Practise KINDNESS – for me and YOU

Close out some things draining my energy

Say no to stuff I really don’t want to do

Make different decisions about work I choose to go after for the next 6 months

Be bolder with my fees and simultaneously the value I offer

Sleep more

Juice more

Just let the stuff going on in my head and heart play itself out – sit with it and befriend it for a while

Stop forcing it to shift, ‘cos I know my personal tide will shift – just like yours will.

Like writing blog posts. I last did a newsletter to my database at the end of March, and no matter how often I saw the “task” reminding me to love my database and send a newsletter -I just couldn’t muster up any enthusiasm to write to you. Rude? Mmm, perhaps just honest. Then at the ungodly hour of 1.30 am this morning, with a bit of jet lag still lurking, an energizing call with our professional writer’s mastermind group and the weight of my partner in the hospital, I find myself wide-eyed and willing to write again. LUCKY you ha ha.

SO, WHAT TO DO NEXT?
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A leap of FAITH to get outta the DITHER zone

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A Leap of Faith to get out of the DITHER zone!

I woke up this morning really not knowing WHAT to share with you on the blog today. I have committed to creating and sharing something with you twice a month, so I reverted to one of my personal transformational tools to help me decided what message I needed to listen to for myself, and share with you.

I burst out laughing when this was what I / we got:

LEAP OF FAITH.

Instantly I had a newsletter!

The summary of this message is: Take a risk and put your heart’s TRUE desire into action. Procrastination about your dreams won’t make them go away! Neither will it make them happen. Indecision is the soul’s burning passion to improve, grow and learn” – D. Virtue

So often clients will come to me wanting support on WHICH decision to make. Now honestly, how many decisions are truly life long ones? Sometimes I think we place too much emphasis on the “RIGHT” decision. Successful souls simply make decisions, move on, and change tack when they need to. They are more inclined to make quick decision, and slower to change them. Could you learn to be a bit more decisive, trust your heart, just say yes OR no, without hesitation?

For those of you that are totally risk averse, give yourself a deadline i.e. “I will investigate and mull and dither until the 31st July” Bottom line is, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR MIND LATER. Oooh, imagine that! A decision is never right or wrong, it is simply a decision!

Only the decision to have children and getting married (well perhaps even that latter is not even permanent is it?) are decisions for life. Once you have a child you cannot alter that fact. All else however, can be shifted, adjusted, tweaked, improved and totally switched. What freedom of choice.

Do you know how much ENERGY it steals from you to be in the DITHER zone? That energy can be re-directed with purpose and be spent on ACTIVATING your heartfelt choice – starting your business, getting married, moving country, falling pregnant (we know that takes lots of energy hee hee). It can even be the decision on what to wear, which route to take to your destination or starting a hobby. Learn to hone in on your heart and soul and trust yourself – whether it is about your choice of ice cream flavor or your safety when driving home at night and you feel a little weird – go around the block again or call someone to see you in the gate.

YOUR LEAP OF FAITH can be about the small decisions you make daily as well as the bigger ones you are being urged to press PLAY on.

So, what are the things you are shying away from? What does YOUR HEART truly desire right now? If you feel stuck, get support, a team, a mastermind group, counseling or a kick up the proverbial to realize your life is dashing past you– who cares how much help you need to surround yourself with as you flex your faith muscles.

The moment you make a decision, the magic will start happening. I teach about making space in your life, then letting everything flood in to greet you. The moment you make space by making one decision, you are instantly culling all the others, like pruning a tree. Now you are able to accept ideas, advise, thoughts, dreams, serendipitous acts to help you on your way. The place of indecision, believing you cannot make your dreams come true, is a place of dithering death.

MOVE! DECIDE! TODAY!

What is the worst that can happen? You might trip and fall flat on your face, it might fail, you might hate what is it you have decided about. So what? At least now you know and can re-group and re-decide.

 

BE bold, LEAP NOW and come and share with me on Facebook what you are ACTIVATING and no longer DITHERING on!

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What happens in Vegas shouldn’t always stay in Vegas!

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I recently had the pleasure of finding myself in the mad, crazy, decadent and innovative city of Las Vegas. Whilst filming the transformational movie titled “The Secrets of the Keys”, I naturally found myself having insights about life in general, which you can find below…

And of course, whilst everyone goes there because “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” I am definitely operating from the exact polar opposite as this movie sure as heck should NOT BE STAYING IN VEGAS!  You will see below in the pics what I have done to add fuel to the intention for everyone involved , as we want it to reach the corners of the globe and help people along their path. There is an amazing chalk wall in the Container Park, where I scribed “The Secrets of the Keys” goes international. Love Kate. Immediately two twenty -somethings asked me what it was about –  The power of spreading the idea! I wonder if it is still there?

If you would like to follow the activity about the movie CLICK HERE of follow us on @theKEYmovie,  ‪#‎TheKeyMovies‬

 

  1. TRUST COLLABORATIONS

The producer Robin Jay that I met last year in USA, absolutely trusted her intuition and guidance when co-creating with all the experts, stars and crew. When we all gathered on set for first morning, there was immediate synergy, respect, connection and a feeling of knowingness between us all. It truly was seeing trust come into manifest form. I also had to trust that this was right for me, and all the work required to get myself there, was a risk of epic proportions that has already paid off.

 

All the experts featured with me in the movie! The most amazing people that will inspire you...

All the experts featured with me in the movie! The most amazing people that will inspire you…

 INSIGHT FOR YOU: where can you trust your gut to form more powerful alliances and collaborations to leverage your energy, time and ideas? The first answer that pops into your head will be the right one.

 

 

  1. BUILD IT AND THEY WILL COME

Las Vegas just oozes this concept for me. Who would have thought way back when they decided it would be a good idea to create this city and legalize gambling and casinos, that decades later it is still a mecca for madness and decadence. Seeing it in the movies is one thing, but actually seeing it in reality is a mind trip. Not other way to describe it. They have created this oasis that reflects other parts of the world, with New York, the Pyramids, Eiffel tower, Venice and more. They have created a city that for all intents and purposes shouldn’t be there, PLONK in the middle of the desert.

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INSIGHT FOR YOU: If something as crazy as Las Vegas can be built and then attract people, what could YOU build that people would be willing to experience and pay for. Build what it is you dream about!

 

 

  1. BOLDLY OUTRAGEOUS

Walking around in Vegas is a bit like being a star struck extra in the movie “The Hangover “– in fact there was even someone dressed-up like the character with the baby – just to pay in order to have pictures taken with him. I saw things and people that made even me drop my jaw in awe/ shock/ surprise/ delight.
From elderly men in mono-kinis, (my opinion a tad “disgusting” lol) to a guy with a cardboard sign saying kick me in the nuts for $20, (funnily bizarre) to show girls all glitz and glam (delightfully gorgeous), to the awesome Container Park (inspirational use of old shipping containers filled with fabulous artists), to a ten year old powerhouse classical music performer  and dancer doing her thing entertaining the crowd with her Gutspa (see pic). Everyone pretty much does what they want, no excuses other than the excuse to do as you please. It is an opportunity to be outrageous – as permission is implied the nano-second you set foot in the city limits. Everything is louder, bolder, ballsier, bigger (including the big boobs flashed readily in the old Freemont St) and definitely brighter.

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INSIGHT FOR YOU: If you dared to not give a darn about what everyone thinks and try to be boldly outrageous, what could you do to shift your life and business?

 

 

  1. INNOVATION TO INDIVIDUALISE

Same same same same same. SAME!
Every hotel has HUGE casinos, smoking inside, free booze, somewhat “shady” waitresses, outlandish decorations according to the over-the-top theme and many fun shenanigans to get you to part with your dollars or RANDS . I went into about 10 of the big hotels, as that’s what one does when walking the strip right? They all started feeling the same – noisy, busy, smoke filled and glitzy.

All but two (of the ones I saw).

My first delight at realizing one has to differentiate (and let me be clear they all are decorated differently, but for ME the underlying essence remains the same) was the moment I stepped into the Bellagio Hotel . Not only does it have the well known water fountains dancing to music every half hour or more, it also has the most exquisite hand-blown glass flowers by Chihuly in the reception ceiling – it felt like being underwater with multicoloured jellyfish. I gasped with delight and just stared. See pic.

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But their real differentiator is the Atrium just after reception. People flock to see this masterpiece as it is altered and updated every season, so 4 times a year. And this is a huge undertaking. The theme for spring when I waltzed in was a Japanese garden, that was duplicated in the flowers around the hotel, the reception and elsewhere. Sublimely tasteful and exquisite. ZEN. YUM.  It was a bit like a mini Chelsea Flower Show with a kimono clad Japanese woman playing the piano live, accompanied by a flute.

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The second was finding the tranquil oasis known as The Mandarin Oriental. Quiet and discreet, with NO casino (J). When I walked in all I found were some beautiful zen spots of contemplative sitting. I had to ask where the reception was – none other than a 23rd floor SKY LOBBY. I slowed down here for some sushi and writing in my journal – when I left an hour later I honestly felt like I’d visited a day spa.

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INSIGHT FOR YOU: Even when your business appears to be the same as everyone else’s, how can YOU stand out and be noticed. Where could you innovatively go against the common grain?

 

 

5. GOOEY GLUE POWER

I had the lifetime pleasure of seeing Diana Ross strut her Diva self on stage. The epitome of glamour puss, singing powerhouse, deeply passionate about her craft and in love with the audience, she put on a memorable show. She oozes love, life, sex appeal and class. Plus gowns with feathered trains wafting behind her that made her a treat to watch flouncing up and down whilist belting out all her old favourites, backed by images of Mowtown and the supremes.

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INSIGHT FOR YOU: Are you as committed as GOOEY glue to your profession, your life, your passion? Do you shine your light and ooze love from your pores? If you are bored, fed up, disinterested then what are you going to DO about it?

 

I hope this has given you some insight from Vegas- see you soon!

With Lightness, Kate
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Are you somehow still holding on?

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Two monks left their monastery to pilgrim for a couple of years. They were not allowed to speak to anyone or touch anyone all the time they were travelling.

They got to a river where a woman was trying to cross but she couldn’t do so on her own, as she was too scared to.

The one monk wouldn’t help, given their directive from the monastery; but the other one picked her up, carried her across the river and set her down very safely on the other side.

The monks continue their journey together and arrived back at the monastery two years later.

When they had settled back, the monk who wouldn’t carry the woman said to the other one — “ how come you broke the rules we were given for our pilgrimage and carry that woman across the river … you KNOW we were not supposed to talk to or touch anyone?”. The other monk looked at him gently and said — “for two years you have carried this heavy load with you, but you see I put her down on the other side of the river and moved on!!”

Sums it up doesn’t it!!

So, where are YOU holding on long past your sell by date. I’m sure you know that I am passionate about all things that keep us stuck, heavy, in the past, bemoaning our situation — whether anything in your physical space that depletes your energy, people stealing your power (remember it’s only with YOUR consent though) and of course any body clutter stealing your va va voom.

So to share this passion and nudge you along your path to help YOU LET GO – read on, as I have a gift for you.

Getting rid of clutter of all descriptions is one of the easiest ways to start shifting your life. There is a very magical reciprocity between letting go and creating new flow. As you dare to be brave, take the next step and look at all aspects of your life, you will trigger such an amazing series of events that will catapult you forward to the next level.

In order to climb, you HAVE TO trust and let go of the branch below.

PERFECTION IS NOT WHEN THERE IS NO MORE TO ADD, BUT WHEN THERE IS NO MORE TO TAKE AWAY. Antoine de Saint-Expury.

Are you letting yourself down?

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As you know I always use my own life as inspiration for my musings to you, so as stuff comes up for me, I ask you the same thing…
Do you ever feel as though you are letting yourself down? You say you’ll do something and then just let it slip off the radar?

As you know I always use my own life as inspiration for my musings to you, so as stuff comes up for me, I ask you the same thing…
Do you ever feel as though you are letting yourself down? You say you’ll do something and then just let it slip off the radar? For e.g

 

1. Wash Mitsy the poodle but land up leaving her scruffy all weekend

2. Promise to call someone – you say…oh Kate we MUST catch up for coffee

3. Commit to start a new programme and then let it fizzle out in two days

4. Promise to write that important article/ letter but keep putting it last

5. Know you have several appointments outstanding but never get around to the dentist or medical check

6. Decided your will needs changing but just dont make the call to alter it

7. Decide to cut out wine in the week…until Monday evening

8. Say X ….then you somehow let yourself off the hook and just say it doesn’t matter and do Y.

Whilist we are all be busy in the crazy world of ours, this concept boils down to your PERSONAL integrity and whether or not you take yourself seriously, and have self respect. If you feel that others often let you down, break commitments and generally mess you around, start looking at yourself and if this is the kind of thing you do to YOURSELF?

The solution:

If you say you are going to do something, then do it. It’s a mental choice. What would it take for you to become someone that YOU admire and respect?

If you dont do it, then how can anyone else?

If you would you like to become one of those people that when you say you are going to do something, that you do it, Ask yourself one question- Have I made commitments to myself /others that I am not honouring and how does this make me honestly feel?

Make a list of where you are out of personal integrity with yourself (and others if appropriate) and face the list. Pick one area that is weighing heavy on your heart and resolve to do it today.

What I know for sure:

As you start trusting yourself to honour your own word, it will undoubtedly boost your self esteem and your energy levels by knowing that your word means everything. The kick you will get out of being true to what you say will make you walk with a bounce. Do not let other things take priority and get in the way.

Resolve to be true to your word- just like my beautiful Tiger below called Stripey – he sure knows how to be TRUE to himself!

Have a delightful day, as always, love

Do you exhibit stickability?

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Whether this story is in fact true or not, it still rings true for me as a reminder in terms of the vast mistakes we can make when we dare to make assumptions about another human being,

Whether this story is in fact true or not, it still rings true for me as a reminder in terms of the vast mistakes we can make when we dare to make assumptions about another human being, or another situation  — it also means we will potentially be making the same assumptions about ourselves in some way.

 

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious.

When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the president’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private. They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner.

Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle, “Why was he so interested in talking to you?”

She replied that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her.

President Obama then said, “So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant?”

To which Michelle responded, “No Dear, if I had married him, he would now be President!”

This story shows me the arrogance of us all, at some point. It has nothing to do with male versus female or quick wit in the moment. I wonder how many times a day I make a mis-judgement, some form of error or a minor false accusation (even without intending to be malicious or hurtful in any way).
Often we are just not “emotionally aware” enough to see what is really the story behind the story that we see, feel and perceive — we simply and simplistically want the way we assume things to BE the truth for e.g. in the case of the president above. We want to be correct and proven right — thus our inability to see the truth because of what it might enforce us to believe about ourselves, can lead to potentially grave errors. Errors that keep us stuck in a small point of view.
So when I read this, it made me stop and think about where do I tend to make arrogant assumptions, about YOU, me and the next person. How much kinder could our world be if we did in fact ask the right questions, rather than assume we know all the answers.
I am most guilty of this when it comes to intimate relationships – I tend bring so much of my stuff like past pain, past, jealousy and all the other ugly shadow aspects I don’t ever want to admit.  And here comes the self judgement — that because of the work that I do and the message I spread in the world, that I “should” have it all better together. But blow me down, I can get into that dangerously assumptive space like a teenager reduced to ridiculousness. Then in other areas I feel like I’m flying high at tertiary level, passing cum lade. Such is the lesson of life that we have to grow through. But there they are — my assumptions that I continue to work on, be friend, cajole them out of the wood work, break pieces of real wood to help me break through the barrier. And yes, I see relief and shifts, but I know there can always be more too. So I constantly work on the angle of where am I making assumptions that will make me play out the old scenarios linked to past baggage rather than help me to step up into a new form of relationship. Maybe your glitch is also relationships, or perhaps it shows itself in career, finances, health, family?
I am interested in the letting go of the assumptions that keep me small so I can be more fully present with YOU, in this moment. Leaving my own old lenses with which I can view the world beside me, and be willing to step across the threshold of vulnerability….
So my challenge to myself and to you, dear reader, is to go about your day and your week questioning your motives, your intentions and your assumptions. When you find that someone makes an incorrect assumption about you, why not see if you can let them down gently and put the “record” straight so to speak.  Help open their eyes and hearts. See if you can do your level best to stop perpetuating assumptions about what can and can’t be done. What you can and can’t be achieved, where money does and doesn’t come from. To attempt to be more expansive, open, willing trusting and playful.
And of course, as always, I’d love to hear your views so please leave me a comment or interact with me on my facebook page here
you can also sign up on my website for a course to help you SHIFT 1 THING – www.kate-emmerson.com

The Arrogance of Assumption…

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Whether this story is in fact true or not, it still rings true for me as a reminder in terms of the vast mistakes we can make when we dare to make assumptions about another human being,

Whether this story is in fact true or not, it still rings true for me as a reminder in terms of the vast mistakes we can make when we dare to make assumptions about another human being, or another situation  — it also means we will potentially be making the same assumptions about ourselves in some way.

 

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious.

When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the president’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private. They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner.

Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle, “Why was he so interested in talking to you?”

She replied that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her.

President Obama then said, “So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant?”

To which Michelle responded, “No Dear, if I had married him, he would now be President!”

This story shows me the arrogance of us all, at some point. It has nothing to do with male versus female or quick wit in the moment. I wonder how many times a day I make a mis-judgement, some form of error or a minor false accusation (even without intending to be malicious or hurtful in any way).
Often we are just not “emotionally aware” enough to see what is really the story behind the story that we see, feel and perceive — we simply and simplistically want the way we assume things to BE the truth for e.g. in the case of the president above. We want to be correct and proven right — thus our inability to see the truth because of what it might enforce us to believe about ourselves, can lead to potentially grave errors. Errors that keep us stuck in a small point of view.
So when I read this, it made me stop and think about where do I tend to make arrogant assumptions, about YOU, me and the next person. How much kinder could our world be if we did in fact ask the right questions, rather than assume we know all the answers.
I am most guilty of this when it comes to intimate relationships – I tend bring so much of my stuff like past pain, past, jealousy and all the other ugly shadow aspects I don’t ever want to admit.  And here comes the self judgement — that because of the work that I do and the message I spread in the world, that I “should” have it all better together. But blow me down, I can get into that dangerously assumptive space like a teenager reduced to ridiculousness. Then in other areas I feel like I’m flying high at tertiary level, passing cum lade. Such is the lesson of life that we have to grow through. But there they are — my assumptions that I continue to work on, be friend, cajole them out of the wood work, break pieces of real wood to help me break through the barrier. And yes, I see relief and shifts, but I know there can always be more too. So I constantly work on the angle of where am I making assumptions that will make me play out the old scenarios linked to past baggage rather than help me to step up into a new form of relationship. Maybe your glitch is also relationships, or perhaps it shows itself in career, finances, health, family?
I am interested in the letting go of the assumptions that keep me small so I can be more fully present with YOU, in this moment. Leaving my own old lenses with which I can view the world beside me, and be willing to step across the threshold of vulnerability….
So my challenge to myself and to you, dear reader, is to go about your day and your week questioning your motives, your intentions and your assumptions. When you find that someone makes an incorrect assumption about you, why not see if you can let them down gently and put the “record” straight so to speak.  Help open their eyes and hearts. See if you can do your level best to stop perpetuating assumptions about what can and can’t be done. What you can and can’t be achieved, where money does and doesn’t come from. To attempt to be more expansive, open, willing trusting and playful.
And of course, as always, I’d love to hear your views so please leave me a comment or interact with me on my facebook page here
you can also sign up on my website for a course to help you SHIFT 1 THING – www.kate-emmerson.com

“Falling apart” or “falling together”?

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At some point in our lives we all tend to use the expression “my life is falling apart” – when everything seems to be going haywire, losing its grip and shattering before our eyes.

What we forget is that it is always, well mostly, for our highest good. We don’t want to hear that when we are kicking and screaming against the changes, the flow that appears to be pushing against us, the struggle and the potential fear of NO MORE.

We are the ones that make the changes harder and harder to welcome. I came across this beautiful expression this week about rather than seeing it as “FALLING APART”, that we view it rather as “FALLING TOGETHER” – the bigger picture is usually about about falling together – IF we can get ourselves and our fragile egos out of the way. It reminds me of one of my favourite poems of all times called GOD IS LIKE THE WIND, that i will share below.

If we play small, hold tight and forget to go with the flow, life will feel like it is truly falling apart. If for one moment in time, we can remember the bigger picture that we are never meant to know in totality, it can make it seem as though our soul is truthfully assisting us to fall TOGETHER again.

Our journey here on earth is one of wholeness, inner healing and a return back into the full joyful expression of who we really are. BREATHE.

So next time you feel like you’re falling apart, remember your soul might be helping you to fall together in the most exquisite way.

Here is the beautiful poem I have loved for over 20 years

GOD IS LIKE THE WIND  – by Don Glassey

We cannot see the wind, but we can see the activity it creates;

Moving through the trees, rustling the leaves, blowing over grasses. Likewise with God, for though God is invisible and unseen we can perceive the effect of God’s creative force in our lives.

In the miracle of birth, in a mother’s unconditional love, in the joyous laughter of a child.

Even when there seems to be no wind, if we are very still we can feel the wind’s presence

Similarly with God, for in those moments when we doubt god’s existence, if we are very quiet and calm we will feel God’s omnipresence.

 

When the wind blows very hard, if we are moving very fast, we may not be aware of its strength.

Likewise with God, if we are very restless and busy we may not sense God’s presence even though it is omnipotent.

If we disregard the re-balancing force of a strong wind, it may blow more powerfully in the form of a hurricane or tornado to fulfill its purpose.

Like wise with God, if we ignore God’s omniscience in re-balancing our lives, God’s will may be more forceful to bring us back to purpose

It is always our option to heed the forces of nature and hear the message in a gentle wind, or we can wait for a gale wind to get our attention. Similarly with God, we can listen to God’s whisper, or we can wait for God’s shout.

It is always our choice.

So, what are YOU choosing to think, feel, experience and reflect today, RIGHT NOW? Let me know below …. or on https://www.facebook.com/kate.emmerson.page

Blessings, Kate

Get IGNITED this winter!!!

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Happy winter – let’s use the introspective time to make a difference in your life!….

 

This newsletter has the following: a  short video, an inspirational workplace article, my new talk and a hint of something to come…

1. VIDEO (1.5 min) to share my winter retreat you can do from anywhere SO – If you wanted to join us on Mauritius and couldn’t make it, this is FOR YOU. IGNITE YOUR LIFE from your own home
VIDEO -watch here
READ MORE on my website  HERE

2. Need more energy and oomph? 

Article about VITALITY in the WORKPLACE – a passion close to my heart to stay engaged and energised this winter –check it out here

3.  Inspire your staff  and teams with me as your guest speaker: 

 My new talk DITCH YOUR GLITCH is on offer . Click here 

SURPRISE RETREAT

This is my fun, magical and exciting adventure for you that I’ll tell you about next time!

A retreat  held in NOVEMBER  to close out your year strong and create your vision for 2014

Plenty of time to book for this once in a lifetime opportunity….

The Power of Commitment and Long Term View….

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I have always been one of those LAZY face and face care people, by which I mean no matter how excited….

I have always been one of those LAZY face and face care people – by which I mean no matter how excited I can get about the IDEA of cleanse, tone and moisturise, I tend to do it in fits and starts of sporadic energy. Having started early when the good ol’ teens set in and I was interested in keeping pimples at bay (ok, I lied i really mean ACNE at bay – my god I remember my university exams in the middle of searing heat in Durban with 35 degree heat and my skin was soooooo bad I had to wear thick base to even get myself into the exam, I was so embarrassed- sheer stress erupting through my pores….but no matter what happens I think I take a double dose of  “rehipnol”, because no sooner than a bottle of gunk has been completed, it’s like I forget to buy the replacement bottle, using every single assortment of goo I can find rather than going and buying the next one. Then I get fed up again, find a new product, or see a great special offer with ooooooh ooooh such a pretty goody bag! bla bla bla

 

Don’t even talk to me about taking my make up off at night, EVERY NIGHT. Seriously, who does that?  The quintessential clubber in my youth, I’d rather collapse on the bed with the blasting music dof, dof, doffing in my ears (you KNOW what I mean after 8 hours of crazy loud music hey?) – and I guess I just set myself up with bad, sporadic and “doomed to die with bad skin” habits.

 

So eleven years ago when I started my coaching business, I KNEW I really OUGHT to start taking my appearance, clothes, face, make up i.e. general street appeal to a new level. I have never done it all at once (aka a makeover like our latest retreat we are offering Mauritius – don’t worry ladies we are offering it again next year) – and will sometimes pay attention to hair, then nails, then clothes etc. But when I started doing well-paid talks for my work, well, I then had to bump it up another notch, to step it up again and be more in the limelight.

 

So whilst I know it’s always a journey….but my real grown up journey with taking my skin seriously started last year ….

 

 

Not one for trying Botox (but definitely pleaded with by some friends to join them) I am also not a HUGE fan of my scowl mark (who said I was happy every moment of the day) and my forehead wrinkles (aka the lines from baby oil and a silver roof to tan on during matric) let alone the fissures starting on either side of my mouth. I like to believe I have an ANIMATED face that shows feeling and emotion and my wild laugh, but truth is, my lines, dehydration and wrinkles bother me. My gran had, and mum has, amazing skin, due mostly to less sun exposure, but I’d like to do the Emmerson female lineage proud….and Holy mackerel don’t even start me on the adult mid 40’s acne. WHAT is that??

 

So last year – I was the guest speaker at a talk and Dermalogica were there doing a fabulous activation and mind mapping – I literally pounced on this girl, who admittedly all of 20 nothing, but oh boy, her skin literally glowed and looked like she was airbrushed in front of me. ALL MORNING! I wanted me a piece of that glow factor…

 

One of my lessons has been to learn to expand my worth and my value and to realize that I am a GREAAT spokesperson and brand ambassador if I LOVE you and your product. So I literally asked (well perhaps I begged!!!!) to see how I could be one of their brand ambassadors – hoping like mad they would see value in me and how I could spread the Dermalogica love……

 

It is about commitment …. To a product, to using it, to speaking about it and putting my own energy on the line saying I believe in it and Looooove it.

 

Yes I agree it is an absolute treat /spoil/ gift etc. to be delivered a bag full of delicious goodies from such an amazing product house – beautifully packaged, clean white lines just up my minimalist alley, and the promise of changing my skin rather that just a token product to pat on the outside. I remember it was also a big fat reward last year – On the 1st August I was hand delivered my basic routine – and after spending an entire month flat on my back in July with a slipped disc, it really did give me huge pleasure to open up that bag – I was also about to start travelling to do all my Women’s month talks around SA, and after a month of 5 sets of hectic drugs, I rely felt like my skin was in dire need of some TLC. I was quite literally grey (no no, my hair is silver, but my skin was pallid and grey!) I feel like my skin was rescued and it just lapped up everything I layered carefully on it.

 

I saw a massive jump in the look, feel and general appearance of my skin within two weeks – I even felt like I was starting to love it better in a weird way, paying attention every day TWICE a day and being fastidious about my exfoliation and masks….then another shift at the 1 month mark and then again at 3 months. I then kicked up a gear as my back got stronger and started working and travelling hard again, and got under huge amounts of stress, as we do…… About 6 weeks into using the product I also started breaking out and getting my delightful acne back – yuck – I bellowed to see if there was something the range had to help me, and whooopppeee, medicated gel and medicated concealer. My NBFF -new best friend forever. Every time I thought I loved one product, a different one would become my favourite as I realized what I had at my fingertips.

 

Then I started getting slack again – arrrrrggghh the habits of a lifetime – after about 5 months I was in the UK for the winter, cold, wet, snow, darn central heating, hating water on my face at night etc. etc., and I started letting the usual routine “face product boredom” set in. I limped along for a few months being a bit haphazard – I just couldn’t be “assed” anymore – know the feeling I’m talking about? It’s like training at the gym and hitting the plateau and losing faith and momentum and slipping back ……. The humanness of humanness.

 

I needed to see another bump up in the quality of my skin…….

 

So back to the drawing board:  I yelled for help needing to replenish the drips and drabs of products limping to an end and more importantly I needed to re-boost my skin and get it winter friendly. I was travelling a lot and going to the island of Mauritius for retreats – so going from winter straight into sun a few times…… it wreaks havoc with my skin. I switched some products out, got new re-hydrating serums, and have finally understood the power of layering foundation with PRIMER on top. Oooooh – who knew? My skin feels like silky smoothie yumminess and I’m finally giving the young one a run for her money.

 

Then this past weekend I made yet another decision – and it came about through the power of being impressed by other women. I just made THE DECISION- no more messing around.  Time to dig deeper and commit more. After all it’s not like I’m committing to drinking worms and poking my eyes out every day – I am committing to DERMALOGICA AND ME!!!! That’s pretty cool.  I often watch adverts and wonder, really wonder if the people who are promoting the product really do use it – you know, does the highest paid celebrity actress really do HOME COLOUR? Me thinks not. Authenticity for me is paramount, and it is with awesome pleasure, that I know I am a great ambassador for this product!

 

On Saturday I had the pleasure of addressing 60 amazing women for one the expert salons, and I was amazed to witness the results of consistent and persistent skin care – I could 500% see who had been seriously taking care of their skin for a few decades. It quite literally oozed out of their skin, and the quality, tone and luminosity shone through. I want high caliber skin!

 

I realize that I am now on international stages speaking and inspiring, and if I choose to not have cosmetic surgery, then best I do the VERY best I can to look after the skin I have got. Seeing those older women has given me a new found respect for the fact that it is never too late to start, and I’m darn well gonna embrace that.

 

Whilst I feel like I’m a novice at their twice cleanse, twice daily skin TLC programme, I do have that feeling of commitment. I have now been using Dermalogica for 11 months, and I’m in, hook line and sinker.

BUT – I still have to give my little party rebel an outing every so often, and on those nights I’m honest about the fact that I’m really not going to wash my mug with oodles of water – I whip out my travel pre-cleanse WIPES – OOOH LOVE THEM, and I can slap on one moisturizer and feel good about getting into bed, so long as the music still blares in my ears.  Some habits can stay – party on!  Tomorrow I can go full tilt again with my proper TLC routine but at least I don’t have to start the morning by de-scaling 5 layers of old make-up off before feeding my cat.

 

 

So, are YOU committed to YOUR product of choice and does it truly add luminosity and glow to the rest of YOUR LIFE?

Love and blessings,

Kate

PS: Please note – this is a totally unsolicited article and just my thoughts when I went for a walk this morning around my beautiful leafy green suburb of Greenside, and was contemplating my weekend and my life.