Every now and then, it is true – that sitting patiently, silently, in a centered and non -pressurized way, simply biding your time is absolutely necessary! A bit like the full moon and the special Eclipse last night. It can only happen at the EXACT moment it is ripe to happen. Not one second before. You can read more about what this eclipse means for you from an awesome colleague, Cassandra- click here.
And at other times, you are merely conning yourself -yes, YOU ARE CONNING YOURSELF and playing small. And what is called for is a little nudge or even a tougher kickup the b*tt to get back into action as opposed to wallowing around pretending to be patient. All that matters is that you do the right one at the right time, and don’t con yourself you are being “patient” when actually you are faffing around. “procrastinating”.
There is a HUGE difference between these two scenarios. I think that all too often we think we are being patient with regards to an outcome we want, or a goal we are working towards, when all we are really doing is wasting time and space by not doing anything. We can lull ourselves into the sense of false security that the time is not right, when in actual fact we are conning ourselves and letting ourselves easily off the hook.
We can get VERY good at doing that.
There is wisdom in knowing the difference between the two. Let me keep it simple as to how I see the difference…and see if you recognize where you are right now with regards to some aspect of your life.
How do you recognize if you are being patient?
You have a sense of order
You trust that things are right for you
It feels good on the inside
There is a sense of calm
You feel empowered that all is as it should be
You are positive about what is coming
You have taken all possible action within your power for this goal / outcome
You are excited and optimistic
You can sense the divine timing around it all
How do you recognize if you are just “messing about wasting time” procrastinating?
You are lethargic and tired
Your head is not focussed on your goal
You have no sense of direction….just ambling around
You have not taken all actions within your control
You expect others to be doing things
You are irritable the goal is not happening
You are blaming people or circumstances about why the goal is not being reached
You are doing things that have no real value; TV, shopping, sleeping unnecessarily
You are bored and apathetic
So, when you think about something that you say you really want and are not getting, just assess where you are at HONESTLY and if you need to actually start taking different action and get your b*tt into gear. If things are just as they should be for right now and everything is in perfect harmony then get on and enjoy the time you have on your hands by doing something else you really enjoy?
You cannot speed something up that is not ready…..so don’t even try.
HERE’S WHAT TO DO NOW IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE FAFFING ABOUT…
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